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writes:Dear Cupid, I am really in love with this guy that I met online. I find him very understanding, gentle, and uplifting. Every time we talk I always find myself feeling a realm of happiness that I usually don't feel otherwise. We always talk together over voice chat, and every day I feel closer to him. However, there is one big problem that usually comes with online relationships. We live in different countries. He lives in Venezuela, and I live in California. We are both seventeen, and he has already started university. I still have one year of high school remaining, and I am not sure where I will be going to study. I am afraid to really ask him if he loves me the way I do, but we always say we love each other and such. We have known each other for a few months now. I just don't know, if I should continue trying and being hopeful or just to try to move on... It's hard to imagine just being in a simple friendship with someone like him.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (5 August 2010):
 Have u ever met this guy? U dont even know if he's really who he says he is..Long distance international relationships most def do not work out. How are u going to be with someone u cant see, or touch?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (4 August 2010):
 Most LDR's don't work. I do understand why people want them to, but really, what kind of relationship do you really have if you never see eachother. Hell, you've never actually met him. Sure you've talked, but you're basically pen pals.
Here's a few things. You're very young. Way to young to commit yourself to someone a few thousand miles away. Once you get to college, you'll mature a lot, and learn that your hopes for this "relationship" are silly. You will be an entirely different person when you're 18, then an entirely different person again at 21. Most of the women I've met change pretty drastically again by 24. Life experience is a great teacher. The heart ache you will eventually feel if you try to maintain this "relationship" will be a great lesson for you too.
LDR's only work if one person moves to be with the other. If that doesn't happen, then the physical desires eventually become too strong and someone cheats. Heck, even when people don't cheat, they are suspected of cheating or suspect it themselves.
Good luck in whatever you decide. My vote is to end this before you end up very hurt, but sometimes we need to learn those lessons the hard way.
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