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writes:I am attached now. And the previous guy who have betrayed me in a relationship broke up now and wanted to be just friends with me. I don't know if I should be forgiving and accept him as a friend in my facebook again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your advice I have ignored him. My boyfriend seems glad about it =)
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reader, KittenPaws  +, writes (7 September 2010):
Clicking 'accept' on facebook is not actually the same as maintaining a real friendship. It does however, allow him to keep an on some of your social activities and photos.
If you want to maintain a real friendship with him, then email, phone, text and/ or actually physically meet with him as you feel ppropriate. IF that's what you want.
If you want him to be able to keep an eye on your photos and updates, click 'accept'. They're two different things, and not to be confused. You CAN choose one and not the other.
I'd also discuss the whole matter with your current boyfriend if you value his feelings.
But if your ex has no interest in a real friendship with you, however, why bother with the 'clicking accept' friendship?
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reader, braveheart79  +, writes (6 September 2010):
of course u should accept him let him see just want a big mistake that he has made by letting u go
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (6 September 2010):
 I see questions like yours quite often on DC and I am slightly puzzled. Personaly, I don't understand why people strive so much to "stay friends " with their exes.
Of course, if it means acting civil, greeting them politely when you bump into them by chance, maybe chitchatting a few minutes if you happen to attend the same social event, that's fine.
But why tryng cultivating a friendship when , if you are now apart, obviously there is something not working in your interaction. To be a good friend it takes the same things as for being a good lover- minus the sexual part, of course. So, unless two people split only because of total sexual incompatibility,- that means that for some reason they can't get along, or can't share the same values, or their personalities do not match.
So why wasting time and energy over a "friendship " that at best will be superficial.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010): i had a ex that betrayed me and he try to add me as a friend on facebook but i refused him i am friends with him only has been the father of my daughter he lives a few hours away my daughter only sees him odd school holiday but no way would i add him to my facebook i am friends with him for my daughters sake really so all is pieceful and now i have a wonderful man in my life and dont think he would quite like it if my ex was on my facebook he dont mind me been friends cause of my daughter but he would not like it if i was friends on facebook so i would think twice
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reader, Alvy +, writes (6 September 2010):
Your ex is either trying to reach out to you, or maybe he is trying to check up on you to see what your upto these days if you keep your facebook updated, anyway it is your facebook and your choice whether you accept him, whatever you feel most comfortable with.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (6 September 2010):
 I'd suggest no. Mainly because your current boyfriend isn't going to like it. And this guy betrayed you... he's not worth keeping in your life
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