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female
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36-40,
*ottmess
writes:Hi. everyone. So here it goes.. I have been broken up with my ex for almost about a yr now but I can't stop thinking of what happened and how mad I am for putting myself in those shoes. I always told myself I would never date a guy who was abusive in any form but I was wrong. I dated an older guy for two yrs on and off.He was an alcoholic verbal, emotionally, and got physically abusive towards me. I did eventually break up with him but I was a mess after that I lost alot of weight, didnt sleep, and went to therapy. To this day I can't stop having thoughts about the past with him come up in my mind. Like taking it out on myself for what he put me through. I know that it wasnt not my fault he was the one with the problem.I also know that I am better off without him. It just bothers me still and I dont kno what to do. I have no contact with him at all. I changed my cell # and blocked him from everything online. Help anyone? any ideas?
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reader, SillyB +, writes (6 September 2010):
 I took counseling after an 8 year abusive relationship. Its helping soooo much. This is the best way :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010): You broke up with him, what you have got to see is how positive a move that was and how much courage that took on your part and be proud of yourself. Stop blaming yourself, they don't walk round with a sign on them saying "Go out with me I am going to abuse you" If only they did...
You have done all the right things blocked him and changed cell phone, you have him out of your life, there is no need to beat yourself up about it, put it behind you and move forward.
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