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anonymous
writes:Hi Should I be concerned that my partner keeps their status on single on FB ? She asked me the other day if I'm the type that likes and or needs their relationship status changed on Facebook- I'm not I don't have mine showing and I'm not the sort of person that needs it displayed.I am however a little curious as to why hers explicitly states single. We are in a established relationship. I don't think I should have to bring it up with her but it's obvious that I do at this point.The fact she's asked me means she is aware of it. I've been introduced to her whole family etc so it's contrary to the rest of her behaviour. Like I said I don't need it displayed but the fact that it's explicitly stating single, is it a cause for concern ?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (12 August 2020):
 I don't know, should she be concerned that you are not displaying your coupled status on FB ?... Sure, you don't explicitely announce that you are single; but one can lie by omission too, and not mentioning anything about a steady girlfriend when instead you have one is something which would bother some girls or make them apprehensive that you may have ulterior motives for your silence...
Maybe she is simply chill , like you, and she does not see , like you, the necessity to announce a relationship on FB or to change one's single status when one gets into a new one. Just right on your wavelength.
From what I understand, at least, is not like she went out of her way to call herself single AFTER she had started dating you. She simply did not bother adjourning her status , making an official announcement. Neither did you, though !
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2020): Maybe she's single, until you change your status to "in a relationship."
Either-way you put it, it's what's perceived that matters.
You show no relationship status at all; which can be construed as in no relationship. She is single, until it is publicly confirmed and announced by you that you're in a relationship. Why's it a secret???
Take a hint!
What do you think single-ladies visiting your FB page for the first-time will think, if they see no indication you're in a relationship? It implies you are single. What's so difficult about this? A lie by omission is still a lie! The truth is, neither of you are single...yet! I think compromise is in order.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2020): This is the person who asked the question
Don't misinterpret what I'm asking
I don't want or need her to change it to in a relationship... I don't care. However I don't have any status up there at all. Hers is single. She knows it's single because she brought it up so she must be aware.
If mine were single I would have taken it down already without asking to at least nothing.
Why would she bring it up?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (11 August 2020):
 I don't think so, personally.
OP, it's a SOCIAL media status. THAT is it. It's not what's important in life. Freaking FB shouldn't RULE your life to the degree that it makes you "worry" because she hasn't changed her "online status".
I honestly think, if YOU put up "in a relationship" she would too. Maybe she feels your reluctance to put ANYTHING up there is because you aren't sure about her or don't want to tell the world.
What is good for the gander is good for the goose. So if you don't want to "declare" over social media that you are dating ANYONE, why should she?
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