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*ountryaly76
writes:Hi, I'm a single mother of two. I've been single for 4 years and while i have went out on dates, I never found anyone that I thought I could have a future with. Here's the thing I met a guy about a month ago, he is really sweet a respectful to me, we have the same values in life and we get along great, but it is a long distance relationship.most of our conversation revolves around phone calls and texting. we have started seeing each other in person, traveling back and forth on weekends. He told me a couple of days ago that he is falling in love with me, and I feel it to. I'm scared at this point out of fear of being hurt. And today he hasn't called or texted at all, and i feel concerned that he doesn't want to I have texted him a couple of times and called once, with no answer or reply. I'm not usually a needy person, but where it is a long distance relationship this is all i have to go on. Should I be concerned, that he hasn't called?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 March 2013):
 See there you go....
it wasn't anything you were thinking....
next time try not to blow up his phone...
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reader, countryaly76 +, writes (25 March 2013):
countryaly76 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the advice, he called..Ended up that his phone service was out, dur to the bad weather.
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reader, R1  +, writes (25 March 2013):
 It's only been a day, don't panic give it some more time and if he still doesn't get in touch let us know.
Try and keep yourself busy and your mind occupied. Go and see friends/family. Go out for the day. Leave your phone at home. When you come back he will probably have gotten in touch and it won't look like you are desperately waiting by the phone.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 March 2013):
you need to relax.... give him some space and he'll get in touch with you
I hated being LDR and eventually I talked to my now husband and told him while he could go without daily contact I could not and could he please cope with my needing daily contact.
he managed to do so... some days it was just 2 one minute phone calls... morning... and night... he is not much of a texter...
let him come to you and then you can talk to him about it.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (24 March 2013):
 er........SHOLDN'T'
spelling error - SHOULDN'T
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (24 March 2013):
Okay. The last time you heard from him was a couple of days ago. Hardly any time at all. He told you then that he's falling in love with you - what are you so worried about?
If it is because, as you say, you're scared it might all go wrong and you will get hurt, well then, unfortunately there's no guarantees that won't happen.
Now: don't misunderstand me: I'm not saying it WILL happen that way!
What you have to do is to be willing to let him - and YOU - have some space! Constantly phoning or texting isn't a good idea (not that you're doing so). He has a life of his own - AS DO YOU!
So, no, at this point you SHOLDN'T be concerned that he hasn't called. Try to relax and occupy yourself with the things you have to do, first, looking after your children and home, and job; second, focus on activities and interests you enjoy. What do you do for relaxation and/or fun?
What interests you - when you have time to get involved in it?
See, that way when you do hear from him you'll be calmer, not anxious, or needy and can tell him about what you've been enjoying, and taking an interest in his news and activities.
My last word is, if you don't hear from him in, say, a week, THEN phone him and see what's going on.
However, I'm sure he'll be in touch again soon.
Let us know!
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reader, llifton +, writes (24 March 2013):
 i'm sure he'll contact you. just be patient. i'm sure he has his reasons. all will be fine. :)
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