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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and I realized that I'm unhappy about a year ago, at the beginning of this year I moved into a house with a whole bunch of students because I started college. I started falling for one of the guys I stay with,I eventually couldn't take it anymore and I told him, a few days later he told me that he likes me too ,we started getting really close, we kissed then we landed up having sex a few times(I know what I did is beyond disgusting) but he told me that no girl has ever made him feel the way he does right now or has made him happy and smile this way. We use to spend every moment together , even when I was alone in my room he would come and sit with me every single time and spend time with me and I would do the same. From the beginning people said that they could see we had feelings for each other , we had a fight and he told me that nothing could ever happen between us because we live together , then I accepted that , we barely spoke , so I confronted him and said we can't be like this to each other because we are going to start hating each other so we started talking again , he told me that he still likes me but I have a boyfriend and we should just be friends and see what's happens in the future, I agree because I do have a boyfriend and I know I need to end things with him first but I just don't know how , its only fair to both of them. To me things are really awkward between this guy and me, our friends keep pressuring him to want to be with me because they say we suppose to be together, I think that is making him more distant. When I first met him he told me how before he dates a girl how he needs to get to know her really well first , he also shows no emotion ever, I can't really tell when he's happy, angry or sad, he's a very closed off person , I know what I did is wrong , I wish I knew how to end things with my bf because ll I can do is think about this guy , we on holiday now, I tried to talk to him once just to see how he is doing and he kept the conversation very short , do u think I still have a chance with him in the future? and how do I make him see that I'm not this crazy obsessed person my friends made me look like? I tend to over think things and think of the worst. Do u think I've messed up for good? How do I end things with my current boyfriend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2013): Sit the poor man down and tell him how you feel and why. Is the thing with the other man just pure lust? Or do you actually have interests other than sex and having puppy eyes at each other? Make your own decisions on this one but I believe your long term boyfriend has something more to offer than what this other man hasWho is to say once this new guy has jumped you for awhile the magic wears off and he goes off trying to charm some other unsuspecting women and drops you with the classic line. Sorry the spark is not there anymore honey. If this new guy turns your crank better than your old boyfriend great. But just maybe the attraction is pure lust and in a few weeks or months this man will leave you and you will be left with nothing other than other people saying she was such and such bedroom's buddy.
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (25 March 2013):
 Meet up with your bf and tell him you think it's time to end things. He deserves to know why, so you might as well tell the whole truth. There's no easy way to break up with someone, not for the one being let go and not the one doing the separating.You're just going to have to get the courage and do this. You've already wasted a year of your bf's time, not fair to waste anymore. But before you break up, I would take a moment and make sure if this is what you really want. Do you really want to give up something you've invested 5 years in for a one night stand? Think about that and make sure to be honest with yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2013): God how hard is it to break up with someone? Why are your emotions and convenience at such a premium to other people's? You have screwed over 2 people by being immature and selfish.
Surely after 5 years your boyfriend deserves better than that. The other guy well he is obviously having guilts about what you are doing too.
How could he ever trust anyone that acts the way you have? If you can do it with him why cant you do it with someone else if you ended up together?
I would never be with someone who has behaved like that, regardless of if I had feelings. Sorry but this problem is obvious.
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