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writes:SO .. I'm in love with a guy .. he's not from my school and he lives near my city ..i see him about 4-5 years and now i started to have feelings for him.. those feelings are very strong it's the first time that im in love like this ..i added him on facebook before 5 or six months and he is the boy that is interested about cars and etc. and he has only pressed "like" to a cars or something but not to a girls ..and everytime that im changing my profile he presses "like" to my picture and when it was his birthday i told him happy birthday and he answered only to me. now he doesnt have a clue that im in love with him and i think that he has a girlfriend .. please tell me what to do:(
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (25 March 2013):
 If he has a girlfriend he's off limits.
But the bigger issue is that you live in the same area and he makes no effort to see you in real life... that means you are not that as important to him as he is to you.
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reader, uzer  +, writes (25 March 2013):
While I disagree with Denise32 saying online relationships can never work, I agree that he is off-limits if he has a girlfriend. Also, it doesn't seem like you guys know each other, to be honest. It sounds as if you just saw a cute guy on Facebook and got infatuated. There's no real connection.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (24 March 2013):
 Two things:
1. You have to realize that having an online or Facebook friendship with someone you have never seen - or see only very occasionally - is not, and cannot be, a real relationship.
That takes spending time IN PERSON frequently with one another; meeting and socializing with each other's friends, maybe meeting his/your parents and family for a meal out somewhere. Without this you only succeed in building up a fantasy picture of the young man. So it is not a relationship at all, but only something that basically exists in your own mind and not in the real world. I'm sorry to disillusion you.
You're "in love" with someone you don't really know.
2. He has a girlfriend. He's off-limits to you.
What should you do, therefore? Well, for starters, put your energy into your schoolwork and getting the best possible grades you can so you'll be qualified eventually to get a good job and earn a living.
Cultivate the friends you now have, as well as making new ones. Look and see what other nice young men are closer at hand and try getting to know them, rather than obsessing about this one. You never know: you might be very pleasantly surprised!
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