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female
age
30-35,
*simmons
writes:Ok so i have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. He has always had this bestfriend that is a girl. They have been in school together since elementary. But they hooked up more than once in high school. Well lately he has been talking so much crap about her. And he said that they weren't friends anymore. This went on for a while. Then all the sudden, the other day i get on myspace and her status is saying how much she loves him and how they are bestfriends. So i asked him about it and he said there is nothing going on. So i believed him. Then this morning his myspace status says how much he loves talking to her and how she always makes everything right. And her status says that long conversations with him calm her down. This is to me is really uncomfortable because they put those status's up around 3am. which means they were up all night talking. So i wanna know if i should be concerned at all?
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reader, oreides +, writes (15 June 2010):
 um, yes. i would be very concerned. however, deal with it with dignity and save face.. ask him about it one more time, bring up what you've seen and if he denies it, then ask him if you can talk to her. if he ISN'T cheating, and they are just close, perhaps it will help mend the rift if you and this lady befriend each other, instead of their friendship making YOU the third wheel.i would be upset, very upset to be you. in a relationship, i want to be the closest person in the world to my boyfriend... and to get online and see these statuses ranting and raving about a lady friend would be very hurtful. tell him your feelings and ask him, without anger and keeping yourself calm and open, if he loves/has been with this other girl. if he has, don't blow up, it's gonna hurt but you deserve a man who rants and raves about YOU. if he says no, then i would make it CLEAR his actions are hurting your trust in him, and that there needs to be a compromise in this situation to feel better about it. whether that means being involved in the friendship with this girl, or what.
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