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41-50,
*ixieGwen
writes:I've been seeing this guy for a month.We're not exclusive but we see and talk to each other almost every day.He's incredibly sweet, loving and not a flake (which seems hard to find in SD), however there r some things that bother me - he doesnt have a car (cause of previous dui's), he never offers gas money/to pay for things - unless I ask, he claims he wants me to come over during the day but doesnt invite me (he msgs in the mid evening and both of us are not working but we have money..so theres time during the day), he used to get into alot of fights as a teenager and seems when hes drinking he gets kind of in that mode (not with me..he just seems a lil aggressive).I like him alot. When we're alone - talking,intimate..its great but sometimes I dont know how i feel about him.I told him all the crap that bothers me and he thought I was gonna drop him - he promises to be better.Am I being incredibly picky? I mean he likes me, we have fun together...but is that enough?I guess i just expect someone that will offer to pay for things..seeing i do all the driving.Call or msg earlier in the day so we can hang out earlier.drink less..be mellow 24/7..not agressive when drinking.I feel like i have to spell everything out for him.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (30 March 2010):
 It is nice and sweet if the man knows what is expected of him.
In many cases, they are either ignorant or obtuse. They are laid back and waiting for you do to everything.
They cannot read your mind and it is better to tell them what you want rather than expect them to read your mind .
It is flabbergasting ,like training some old dogs to learn some new tricks...LOL!
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reader, PixieGwen +, writes (30 March 2010):
PixieGwen is verified as being by the original poster of the question i guess ...i am happy bout the way things are progressing...
ill just have to make sure to communicate more, and see how things turn out. thanks for answering :)
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (29 March 2010):
Are you happy with the way things are progressing?
If you are happy , those little things should not bother you . You can communicate to him about splitting the bill.
As to his past, they are history and nobody can change that.
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