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writes: Okay I'm a very, VERY emotional person, I always have been and I'm very sensitive. I've had at least 3 people say I'm the most sensitive person they've met.Anyway.. it's actually really annoying and I have a boyfriend who I love alot. I was always a sensitive person but of course when I fell in love my emotions went wild. When my emotions get to heavy, I cry. You're probably thinking this is normal, but it isn't normal to cry over the most pointless things.I'm not saying I'm a weak person or anything, but I really can't help it and I hate it. My boyfriend is the complete opposite to me, he isn't emotional at all, so this is where we clash. He has to watch what he says all the time incase of hurting my feelings. Even over the slightest thing, like for instance he says I don't want to watch a film I'm tired. Even something as little as that really gets to me and I NEVER forget anything! and I find myself holding grudges and it's driving me and him nuts.Can you imagine what i'd be like if something really terrible actually happens? It's bad enough when we have an aurgument, I end up cracking up on the floor crying my eyes out. I've found when I drink it's a million times worse but that is of course normal.I am indeed a VERY emotional person and it's horrible, so I wanted to ask if there's any way or any tips of handling things better? Why do you think I'm acting like this? Also, is there any other way I can control my emotions other than crying? Becuase i'm begining to look like a baby and I feel like one! I truely can't help it. Seriously, every little thing gets to me and I'm also very possessive over my boyfriend too. Any tips?Thank you for reading!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI under stand completely and I'm the exact same as that stayc63088. I've cried a couple of times when he's been asleep and I always feel like he doesn't care about me because he isn't emotional. Also, he doesn't tend to show his feelings as well which is also why I think that.
I think you're very right though, I should expect this to be difficult because of the differences and if I ever do meet someone more similar to myself I don't think I will get so upset so easy. Also, when I experience more in life and get more matture.
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (29 March 2010):
 Reading over it again I saw that you said you are posessive and hold grudges. I promise you, I am the same exact way. I would constantly have something bother me and then bring it up over and over and won't let it go! Still, these are just more things you can't change. The most you could do is keep your thoughts and things that bother you to yourself, but that isn't good for you or the relationship. It's just so frustrating because I know you will be better one day and can't see it now. And you will be with someone more suitable for your personality and just don't know it yet.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (29 March 2010):
I am an emotional person. You cannot change it. As serenity80 said though, you will mature and you will handle it better. When I was 17 I dated a guy and recall crying when he fell asleep...Cried when I wanted to go to my parents house for dinner and he didn't respond as I wanted him to. Fortunately I grew out of being so ridiculous, although I am definitely still an emotional person, I am just more mature. I think being an emotional person actually is a great thing. You have feelings and you feel deeply. Someone will love that about you, trust me! I agree that the way you are now is a little out there but you will grow out of it and end up loving exactly how you are. I thank god I am not emotionless. I just got out of a relationship with a guy who sounds like yours. The fact is is that it won't work. He is too harsh and you are too sensitive. Nothing will change that, you can't change each other's personalities. He will continue to say things that upset you because he doesn't understand or realize what will upset you. Trust me because I have dealt with it a couple of times. It's just incompatibility. But you will also realize that one day when you meet someone a bit better for you. Also in my situation, the fact that my ex had no emotions like I do tended to make me feel like he didn't care, since he didn't show it the same way I did. It is just extremely difficult to date someone who you are not compatible with. And being young you feel like you should change yourself rather than know someone else out there is better suited for you. Not that you could, but don't change a thing. There is nothing wrong with him or you or anyone else who says you are too emotional. It's who you are. Love yourself.
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (29 March 2010):
I don't think you can just learn to be less emotional, no matter what people tell you.
As you get older, you tend to become more mature and experienced in dealing with life conflicts, so can handle events that happen differently so in that way, you can be better prepared and know yourself better so you don't react so much to things.
In your case, I think you will probably have a few relationships and be a little older before you are fully ready to handle a relationship that has a long future.
Whilst you may be able to learn to deal with things so less reactionary, you will always be a sensitive person, and so you will always need to be with someone who can understand, appreciate and be empathetic to your needs.
Remember that people change slowly, over time, and it is all the experiences along the way that help guide us in that direction. So take each day as it comes, but more importantly stop expecting that you are going to be able to change who you essentially are as a person.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (29 March 2010):
 Try not to be emotional or over sensitive. Count 1 to 100 before you want to show your emotions or reply. It may delay the explosion and hopefully will not explode.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (29 March 2010):
Get a job in retail or customer service where people constantly bitch at you, bring you close to tears, yet you have to have a smile on your face. That my dear, will make you pretty thick skinned.
Otherwise, you're just sensitive. I'm very sensitive and was a huge crybaby when I was a kid, then one day my mother told me to quit being a crybaby and well I did (I was probably 8 by the way). Sometimes it might not be that good, as I tend to hold in emotions a lot. But really, rationalize a situation out and think instead of becomming emotional. Honestly, no one really likes a crybaby. It's self control, controlling your emotions takes a bit of self control; if you don't have self control then yes, you are a weak person. Granted, there are times that you do need to vent and let out your emotions and cry, but if it's over stupid things then gain control instead of throwing a tantrum like a 2-year old.
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