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writes:I didn't have any enemies in high school. Things stayed that way in university but over the past 4 years of my life I've started burning some bridges.This was unthinkable when I was younger but now there are some people that are simply sources of negativity in my life and I cut them out. I don't want to hang out with them any more or put up with them because it's a huge emotional liability and a horrible time vampire. If they've been rude to me, all the more reason to cut them out of my life. And life is good but in my professional life, I will inevitably run into these people again.Any suggestions? Should I go back to being Mr. Complacent or if there a tactical way of severing ties and not trying to be everyone's friend?
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reader, Jason32477  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 It`s not good to sever ties completely in most cases.That doesn`t mean you have to be buddy buddy with everyone. Just be yourself and it will all come naturally to you.If someone is being a leech pull them off and dump them in some salt.If there being a fly don`t let them buzz you to distraction.If there being a disgusting roach then just ignore them and let them be a disgusting roach.The important thing is that you do your job to the best of your ability.Don`t let anyone stand in the way of that.Other wise keep a friendly manner about your self.You don`t have to go out of your way.Just simple little acknowledgments work fine.
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reader, sugar_sugar +, writes (17 July 2009):
 I understand what you mean completely.
In high school I was in the same boat, friendships were easy - you see each other every day and for the most part friendship is the number one priority.
I found after high school, everyones priorities change (mine included) some just people don't deal with it as well as others.
It becomes apparent in the setting of the real world that there are a hell of a lot of people that give more than they take, and end up just draining you by being in your life.
Like many people, you've outgrown these people and it's easiest just to let it go. Don't cling to something for the sake of nostalgia or being a good guy. You don't have to be rude about it if you feel you'll encounter them in your professional life, just quit expending the effort on them and the friendships will probably die naturally.
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