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writes:PLEASE HELP! I KNOW ITS A LONG STORY BUT I NEED SOME ANSWERS!Ok so im a senior in highschool and i never thought this would happen to me. but it did. this year i met a woman at the gym i go to that made me fall in love at first sight. From what I see, she is the most beautiful woman ive ever met, and i can also sort of feel like i can assume what her personality is aswell.But anyway i talked to her and got to know her a bit and it turns out she is a freshmen english teacher at my school. I also told her I liked her regardless of her occupation (remember i said LIKED, i didnt tell her i love her yet). But yea so we see each other in school and at the gym and we dont talk much. The most we do is say hi and stuff. But at the gym we have short conversation. by the way the conversation isnt the greatest... its just like a "hey what you do this weekend" sorta thing...So im tired of not being able to talk to her forreal just because of her occupation. I hate how I cant truely express the way I feel towards her. And I also cant know how she feels for me neather. So I saw the commercial for Saw 3d and i thought to myself, wouldnt it be nice to take her to the movies at least? but at the same time i realize she could lose her job if rumors got around that somebody saw us together at the movies. I dont want to be the reason for her losing a job shes worked so hard to get. But at the same time I want to spend time with her. I want to hold her in my arms and never let go. I want to be there when shes happy, sad, angry, you name it. She is my everything right now. I know God didnt put her in my life just for her to be an acquaintance. If he did that would be very cruel.But im pretty much deadlocked! I want to be with her with all my heart and my soul but theres so many obstacles in the way. And to make matters even worse, I am enrolled in the Army delayed entry program. I get shipped out to basic next summer and then to army ait eather the summer after basic or straight after basic.So all im saying is, i want to spend as much time as possible with this woman before i go but teh system is making it almost impossible. So I guess this question isnt necessarily about taking her to the movies, but asking for help on what I can do? Reply to this Question
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reader, kewuoygy +, writes (11 October 2010):
I am sorry for being blunt. Just forget it. She could go to jail for this. Don't even try to ask her out. The law is there for a reason. In all the high schools in the U. S., numerous crushes like this happen every day, between young men and young women your age and their teachers. If they were to allow this type of relationship, what would happen to our educational system?
You will get over her given time.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (7 October 2010):
 She can't go out with you, it's against the law. Drop it like a hot potato. You'll only embarrass yourself because she'll give you a resounding "No". Stay busy and your crush will fade. And thank you ahead of time for your service.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2010): Well the first thing you need to remember is for one, she may not have felt anything like this at all towards you. You're so focused on what YOU want and what YOU feel, did it ever occur to you that she doesn't have any of these feelings?
You're young and crushes tent to feel more powerful when you're young.
My best advice is to approach her sometime in the gym when other's aren't within listening distance (she will be less comfortable if other people can hear your conversation and she might not react well) and talk to her, say, hey look, I know how the situation is, I know how this could affect your life negatively, but I was wondering if you'd like to get coffee(or whatever) with me sometime and get to know each other a bit.
If she says yes, great, if she says it's just not appropriate, then you're going to have to let go, she may not feel the same, and you'll have to accept that.
Best of luck, but talking honestly with this person is the best advice I can give, I know it's scary to be so forward, but in the end you'll feel better knowing you actually got it out, rather than this awkward exchange you have going on.
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