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writes: Hi aunts and uncles, I need your advice again please. It is not really a problem but a question as to how you would feel in this situation.OK so my boyfriend (18) and i (20) are planning to go on holiday this summer. I have no idea where as he said he will sort it. My question is: we will have been together for about 4 months when the holiday comes around, (at least) should i ask if we could get a double room or not? I would really like to even if it is just to sleep together and be close (no sex but that would be a plus). How would you react if you were him, I don't want to scare him off but would really like to share a room with him too. Please help!Thanks in advance :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey guys, just a follow up, he said he would like to get a double room and he was pleased i asked!
Thank you all for your help and support :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): If he doesn't I'll pour myself a treble rum & drown your sorrows for you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your help guys. Im going to ask him similar to how you said Uncle Phil and i hope he says he feels the same way.
Thanks again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): This really is as simple as it gets. You simply ask him if he'd be so kind as to book either a double room or a double bed and tell him not to forget the condoms!
What's the point of being shy? If you two are to have a future together you need to be able to talk to each other. What better opportunity than this??
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi, LonelyTwo, he has not been pushing for sex as we are both very shy. But i would really like to take this relationship further so it is not a question of whether i am ready for sex but if he is. He does not give alot away and he doesn't get hints so should i suggest we get a double room? I guess the worst that could happen is he says he isn't ready right?
Thanks for your help
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): Apparently sex is an issue with you, and your still not ready for it.
I would guess knowing this, he would not try something that goes against your will.
If you both haven't sleep together (and no sex), then it might be two rooms. Girls I've dated, some wanting to sleep together but no sex, wanted us both to sleep butt naked.
You know him better then we. Has he been pushing for sex? do you think he will try on this occassion?
One thing that had annoyed me about dating, was women not telling me their concerns, their feelings. Over time, it becomes a drain if the guy is making all the decisions, and he has a silent partner.
You said you would like a same room. If he were to get two rooms and found out later it could have been one, if he is cheap like me, I'd be upset, because I wasted money.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi guys, thanks so much for your great advice and the unanimous answer of that i should ask. Now my only worry is how to subtly suggest i want to be with him so that he will understand what i mean, i don't want to come straight out with it just in case he doesn't want it :o
Thanks again!
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reader, Fairy_Lu  +, writes (8 April 2008):
 Well chances are he is already booking a double room for you both , but if you really want it just bring it up tell him what you want, he cant read your mind and men are bad at subtlty (well most of them)just ask him
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): I bet he will be chuffed to bit that you think that way. Have a chat with him and say you would prefer to have a double bed, never mind the double room, bloody single beds pushed together can be quite uncomfortable. Talk to him, people are not mind readers.
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reader, Namatjira +, writes (8 April 2008):
Why not ask him how would he feel if you shared a room but did not have sex. It is easy to go from no expectation of a sexual relationship to one that includes it but to go the other way is hard.
And you pack the condoms etc.
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reader, Smiffy  +, writes (8 April 2008):
 Hi, I think your BF may be having the same questions in his mind, I am sure he is waiting for the right moment to ask your opinion also, but because its a new realtionship I feel he is also showing you great respect by not asuming you will both share a bed / room, in the end I think you will both up laughing about it....go for your double room
Drop him some subtle hints.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): Just tell him what you'd like to do! I'm sure he'd be delighted to hear it. He's probably been acting the 'gentleman' up until now and is probably thinking along the same lines as you are - but perhaps he's a little shy about it. Doesn't want to scare you off, that sort of thing.
Perhaps the most 'subtle' way would be to ask him if he'll take care of the condoms when it comes to packing.
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