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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi there, i don't know, where should i start, this is the first, severe, and disturbing confusion in my life. The thing is there is this girl whom i started spending sometime with, i used to know her in a supermarket where she works, and recently we are getting closer and we've even had 4 dates. The problem is in all these times (almost a month) i couldn't figure out her intentions. I am so shy and i do not have experience with women, she is almost my first so far in my life (22 years), but she is more experienced than me, she used to go to night clubs, and also she had a boyfriend, whom she broke-up with for the reason that he was jealous of her having fun with her friends. Besides i am a poor virgin. In all these times we tried to talk about our past and i honestly told her that i am not experienced and i also told her that i am not accustomed to going to night clubs.I can't deny that i am liking her, but i couldn't know her intentions. She spends time with me but she almost always keep silent, it may be because i am not as such playful, in this case. I blame my self that i may be boring her. I also want to know that if she is not interested in me would she give me even a minute? I couldn't know the reason behind her giving me this much time to spend with me, is it because she is interested in the relationship? Or is she just playing a game on me? The problem is i am not effective in reading her body language. Would she have any space to entertain an unexperienced man like me. It is true that i would be happy if she'd be mine, i am so confused what i should do? I haven't even told her that i love her, it's because i am afraid that if i do so - she would be disappointed and she would run away from me. My friends advise me just to kiss her but i don't have the courage to do so, of course i love her but i don't know the way to get her, please help me solve my confusion...
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reader, indie girl  +, writes (9 April 2008):
Start with a gentle kiss, then use your tongue slowly and then build up gradually to a hot steamy kiss (;
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (8 April 2008):
So far you have told her that you are nervous about going to clubs, you aren't experienced with girls and you don't know what you are doing.
You need to be more positive!! If you are worried about being silent then take her to see a film. Then you can talk about that.
Work on things to talk to her about, ask her about herself. Tell her what has been happening at work or at uni.
Think of fun things to do and stop worrying! She has been going out with you so far so she must be interested in you. Now stop this obsession with your self and prove to her that you are worth it!!
Good Luck!! xx
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