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*keez
writes:Hi everyone, I hope someone out there can give me some advice on a lil problem i have.Ok here it goes.I met a guy at Halloween 2011 at a house party. We hit it off by talking for a few hours and he asked for my number. I didnt expect him to contact me but he did, and has done now every single day, almost every hour for the last 7 months. We have met 4 times in that 7 months as he travels a lot for work and went to south africa for a month, but recently in the past week or so he has moved only an hour away by train permanantly for the year, so meeting up will be a lot easier.He has stayed at mine for one weekend, while the other 3 times were just for about 8 hours. He is visiting tomorrow for the weekend.We contact as I said all the time and the distance did not matter to me until about a month ago when i started to get stressed by the lack of face time and only recently have I started being ok with it again. He travels a lot to bigger cities because he works in Powerplants nd stays in these cities for 1 or 2 weeks at a time and is only available weekends, so I completely understand he can not see me every weekend as I would want him to have time with his friends as much as possible. But in the month I staarted to lose faith in the whole situation, i gave him the opportunity to end what we are doing because I had become extremely frustrated and confused with what exactly we were, but he didnt want to end it, he wanted to still meet up a much as possible and start Skype when hes away as textin has got old for me now. I have not dated, or slept with anyone else in the last 7 months ive known him because I like him that much and if i liek one person, no matter how much I stic to that one,so im pretty faithful, but im not sure he has done the same. I believe hes allowed to do what he pleases as am I, but I would really like to know where I stand. If hes dating or seein other people I do not want to be involved at all, I would end everything completely. So my problem is, when do I ask him? or should i even ask him? Ive heard so many people say 'you need communication so you should ask' and others saying 'no he wll run for the hills and you will ruin everything' The frustration of not knowing is ruining the way i feel about it all, and i would rather know if we are dating casually or exclusively or whether he wants a relationship. I know hes busy travelling and maybe he doesnt want a gf for that reason, but Im convinced im just making up reasons and id rather not and instead be honest and find out the truth but im worried its too soon seeing as we have only met 4 times, but contacted for 7 months i think is a long long time but still im scared I will set him running. Just ss background knowledge, he has been in a 3 year relationship before and was engaged and we are both 21.So can anybody help me out?Thanks xx
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (24 May 2012):
I would ask tactical questions like if he's dating anyone.
Since you guys talk so much I'm sure you can ask him personal questions like that.
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