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writes:mmf 3some inquirymy girl and i have been together for 4 yrs now, and i recently found out that she has a fantasy about having a mmf 3sum. we talked about it, and it seemed hot to me. i love her very much, but the idea of having her being with another guy seems hot. (i know it's a common fantasy). we discussed who she would do it with, and one person came up that she trusts-a neighbor friend who is attached and has a family, but they seem to go off and do their own thing sexually (one of my hangups). theyve always been nothing but friends. she asked if we should ask him, and i said yeah. she talked to him, and admitted hes had a thing for her for a while, and was very excited at the idea. heres where it gets interesting. he came over the other day, and we played a little. she wants to take it slow with this, but while it was happening, i found myself getting really jealous in a bad way. nothing much happened except some kissing and touching with her and him and her and me. she saw afterwards that something was wrong, and i told her that i love her too much to see her with someone else. also, i had felt wierd about it being him because he is attached with another woman. she ended up telling him it's off, and everything was fine. well, we talked about it some more, and despite how i felt, there is still a part of me that thinks it's hot. she wants to do it only with him because she knows him and knows he isnt going to leave his family for her, and knows he is safe sexually, and won't try to pursue her. i could tell she was disappointed about stopping it at the time, as she really enjoyed it, and i want to make her happy.so, fast forward to today. i kept telling her how hot this was, so she told the other guy that i changed my mind. both are apprehensive about continuing this. my main concern is i dont like the fact that hes with someone, and i dont want to do anything to mess that up with him, and my girl agrees, but at the same time says hes the only one shes comfortable with. before i started thinking it was hot, it bothered me thinking about it. im sure i could be setting ourselves up for tough times. should we continue this, or leave it where it was and not pursue it further. im torn with all this, as i do think its hot, but am not sure if ill react the same way again once reality hits.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2012): Don't do it. You rarely hear of couples handling it well after the fact if it doesn't fall apart during....This too is my fantasy...oh man, how hot it would be to have two guys at the same time...very exciting! And I have thought about bringing it up, however, I changed my mind and I do not think I could ever follow through on it, even if my husband was behind the idea 100%. I just don't think our lives would ever be the same, and a risk I am not willing to take. Our sex life is personal and I cannot imagine sharing it with anyone else.You need to separate fantasy from what is real in your life...you did not react well with just the fooling around kissing part when another guy was around....listen to your instincts, they are screaming at you loud and clear....there is NOTHING good enough down this avenue to ruin your marriage over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2012): Wow a total no no..please don't do this and ruin your marriage..first it will start off a threesome then u never know they might get attracted to each other and do it without you..what if he starts liking her and she enjoyed the sex with him.don't do it..
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reader, person12345 +, writes (24 May 2012):
 Most people who partake in threesomes who are otherwise monogamous do damage to their relationship. Lots of people have these kind of voyeuristic fantasies, it's normal. You should continue to enjoy this fantasy IN YOUR HEAD. You've already had a taste of it in real life and it hurt, why would you go back for seconds? Why even risk something as big as your whole relationship on something as small as one evening?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 May 2012):
 Didn't even read your whole post so if I miss something I'm sorry
my vote as a former swinger who's marriage ended due to having others in our bed is NO do NOT do it.
Keep it a hot fantasy...
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