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writes:So me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months.. i feel like i really love him . but i sometimes think about my ex. that hurt really bad but then again we had alot connection. but! i really want to show my bf how much i love him i dont know if i should lose my virginity to him.. i feel like i want to but then i dont know if i will regret it any tips i am 16 and he is 17 help me please!
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reader, daletom  +, writes (25 May 2012):
There are MANY more people - both guys and gals - who regret having sex too young, or giving their virginity to the wrong person, or just not saving it for the RIGHT person, than there are people who regret waiting.
Having sex with him will NOT show how much you love him, and it won't make him love you. There is a curious pattern of teen couples, even those who have been together for many months or even years, who break up shortly after adding sex to their relationship.
After you two find that you have given plenty of time and attention to each other, and you are SERIOUSLY talking about things like "life partners", then you can think about having sex with each other. After that happens you may still find that even though you are ready for sex with each other, it isn't yet the time to have sex with each other - but you'll know that the sex can wait BECAUSE you love each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2012): If he loves you he will wait until your ready.
You can show him you love him by being by his side and being a best friend for him, but dont take a step that you'll regret. Sex is a huge thing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2012): What if you had slept with him last month, and then he told you today that he no longer felt the same way about you and he was breaking up? Would you regret sleeping with him in that case?
THAT is when it's right to sleep with someone. When you could break up and still feel it was the right thing for you to have done looking back later. When you want it for yourself.
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reader, Annonymous.. +, writes (25 May 2012):
Annonymous.. is verified as being by the original poster of the question awe okay ! can you guys give me any tipsss! :D on how to show him how i love him!:D
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (25 May 2012):
 no , don't give yourself any regrets to look back on!
you only have your virginity to give once. what if you two break up after ward? what if you meet the b/f in the future you may wish to spend your life with,the one that you might have wished you would have waited for.
think it over, don't rush or be pushed into it.
if love is real between you two there should be no rush.
if he cares for you he will not push you into it.
the choice is yours just choose wisely.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2012): there are lots of ways to tell a person you love them, by spending time together , complimenting them and making them feel important and that they matter to you. none of this has to have anything to do with sex. 6 months is not a long time and 16 is young, i was 17 and regreted it afterwards . im not trying to say you definatly will regret it but maybe you should wait a little longer or if you really want to do it, then talk about it first, how you want it to be and what contraception you are going to use, just so that it doent happen as a result of raging hormones that lead you into unprotected sex . good luck x
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reader, Xx-Scorpio-xX  +, writes (25 May 2012):
 Don't lose it just to prove that you love him. Wait until you feel 100% happy yourself to lose it. If it felt right to you, you wouldn't have to ask this question. There are many other ways to show someone how much you love him without having to lose your virginity.
Definatley don't have sex if he's pressurising you into it or begging for it~ that shows he doesn't respect you and isn't worth it.
Good luck :)
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