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writes:There's this dude, let's name him T.(He lives in London while I live somewhere in Asia)We met in an online game a year back.We were sort of close, played the game together a lot. But after close to a year, he started playing lesser, and eventually quitting.Our friendship started fading away, only occasional snapchats were exchanged.I found out there's a school trip to London and told him that I'll be coming to where he lives. So on a weekend when I was at London, he came down to central to meet me in person. We hanged for the whole day and exchanged hugs, he said he wasn't so free on weekdays since he would be busy with school. But after we met each other, he hasn't been texting me.I sent him a message, and he didn't bother to check and reply after a short conversation, and a second one the next day or so, but he didn't check. It got me down, that I was suddenly just ignored. We hit it off alright when we met, though sometimes it was hard to understand each other's accents.I really want to see him again, as I'm still in London for 2 more days... But I don't dare to send him a message to ask him whether he might be free in the evening, since he did say back then that if it's a half day in school, he could drop by...It's a once in a lifetime opportunity to me. The chances that I'll ever see him again is probably never or in a 5 years or more... London is too far off from where I live. MY QUESTIONS:Should I just risk the chance to ask him out while I'm still in London?(I feel desperate doing that, or should I "YOLO" since this relationship/friendship isn't working out so much online)And why isn't he bothering to reply me after we met...?
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reader, jstar92  +, writes (18 September 2014):
 It sounds like you should just let this one go.
Don't put yourself out there again just to receive nothing, walk away from it.
"and why isn't he bothering to reply to me after we met?"
why do people ignore people in life? He doesn't want to involve himself any further, as CindyCares says, he feels he's done enough.
He's made his mind up that he doesn't want to persue anything emotional and physical with you, like a relationship.
Perhaps you're better off talking to him when you get back home, confront him on it, but all in all, I wouldn't bother contacting him again, there is something better waiting for you.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 September 2014):
 Total waste of time, IMO.
It's no so much a matter of looking desperate , of which you could also decide you don't give a fig about.
It's that silence speaks volumes, and basically ,he has already given an answer to the question you have NOT asked him yet.
You contacted him twice, he did not even bother to check your messages. And he knows when you are leaving, so if had interest in meeting up again, you would have heard from him already.
He did not contact you, because he thinks he has done his share already; he has been polite and friendly enough. He has come down to London, spent a whole day with you, shown you around - now, enough. It was an once off. He does not see the point in investing more time on an online ex friend who lives in Asia . I suppose he is not interested in a relationship; as for an instant sex escapade- either he did not feel the spark in person, or he does not know were to take you to have privacy.
As for the friendship, it had dwindled down already, but I guess he thinks that , if you have to rekindle that , you can do it on line.
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