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30-35,
*inybubble
writes:I've been so in love with this guy for almost a year now. I can say that we're good friends. We have so much in common. We hang out with other friends sometimes and there was this one time when we hanged out in a "date-like manner". We had dinner then went to a coffee shop and talked until midnight. So last December, I finally admitted that I had feelings for him. He didn't give me any clear responses so I wasn't really sure at that time if he liked me or not although his actions showed that he wasn't into me. But because he didn't really made anything clear, i was still very hopeful. Then, after a month, I learned that he and my friend had a talk. My friend asked him if he had feelings for me. He said that he only loved me as a friend. Until now, I'm really devastated and heartbroken especially because this guy is my first love. It even hurts more that he did not become honest with me because I wish he just told that to me personally and also, i really want to know why he can't love me despite everything i've done for him. Even after he friendzoned me, we still hang out. We talk and laugh and have typical conversations with each other as if nothing happened. I'm so hurt because I have to pretend everyday in front of him that I'm completely fine; that i'm not hurt at all.Now, we are a few weeks away from graduating from college and there's a possibility that I will never see him again for the rest of my life. Is it okay if I ask him out for one last time on a friendly date just like what we did before as i described? The purpose of this is that I just want to talk to him about "unspoken stuff" between us. Also, I want him to know how I really feel. He thinks I only have this crush on him and I want him to know that what I feel about him is way more than that; that I love him so much. I'm not really sure if this is the right thing to do. Is this right? Or am I just complicating things for myself? Is there really a need for us to talk? Is there a need for him to know how I really feel? Does he even deserve to know that I love him? Or should I just let graduation pass without doing anything then I'll never see him again and I'll just simply forget about him and all this pain in time?
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reader, sherrig  +, writes (17 March 2013):
You don't know that he won't go somewhere and miss you so much he will have to find you, this has happened with many college students. I spoke with a Dr I used to have, he and his wife had been together for fifty years, he liked her in college, but she didn't like him. He went on his way after college for a year or so, she found him, and they never parted again until she died. This man will find you if he misses and loves you, if he doesn't, you deserve someone who does. If you have fun and laugh together like you say, he will miss that. Don't push, be the happy funny friend that he will miss and search for. God Bless and Good Luck
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reader, hlohlo  +, writes (16 March 2013):
 Your situation is very difficult but if you were me,I will ask him to go out with me.Its better to tell him how u feel than keeping that to yourself.The better he knows the more you free yuyourself.You go girl,but always have space for dissapointment in your heart.
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