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writes:Dating a new guy. We've been on three dates now. Having lots of fun and it feels natural. After the last date, he texted me the next morning asking how I was and said thanks for coming and it was awesome. A few days went by, and he texted me asking me why I never text him. We texted back and fourth a little. I said I wanted to see him sometime soon. He texted later saying "when can I see you? and a couple more texts while i was out. When I got home (a few hours later) I said maybe this weekend? He didn't say yes or no. He just said whats up? Should I ask him on a fourth date or was his not answering mean he's not interested. It was all on text. Am I overanalyzing this and should I just ask him out so I can get my answer or should I just see if he asks me, and if he doesn't let it go?I'm new to dating but there's another guy I'm dating thats asked me on 4+ dates by now.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (11 October 2013):
 Yeah 10.30 is not a good time to ask for a "Date" but for a booty call, BUT if you are still interested in DATING him I would ask him out. Maybe he was testing your limits? Since the two of you probably haven't talked relationship much yet.
I would be perfectly UP FRONT when you talk to him that you are NOT looking for casual or FWB. That way he can decline the date IF all he is interested in is FWB.
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reader, lovebot +, writes (11 October 2013):
Yeah, if you want to continue dating him then suggesting a firm time and location would be a good idea. "right now" at 10:30pm isn't a booty call unless it is at your or his apartment, where you will be alone. In general, he should give you at least 24 hr notice for seeing you until you reach the boyfriend/girlfriend stage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice honeypie. I got a weird text from him last night that said, I want to see you. I said ok when? He said now. I said no. It was like 10:30 at night. To me that just sounds like he wanted a booty call. Thoughts?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 October 2013):
Yes, ask him out already!
He wants you to SHOW some initiative and some interest is wanting to BE with him.
IF you are interested, ask him out. And not vague like maybe this week-end, but something concrete like let's go out for dinner & a movie (example) Saturday, we can meet for drink at XX spot first around XX pm.
He might not feel sure that you are really keen on him.
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