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writes:OK. Here we go friends. I have a job. I like this girl over there. She is single. I have talked to her 2 or 3 times by now and last time was 2 days ago and the longest conversation with her. It started like this:Me: Hey, I saw you on facebook.She: Yeah you can add me.Me: Are you sure? Will your boyfriend be ok with it? (I had seen her pics with her boyfriend on facebook a day before that)She: I don't have a boyfriend.Me: Really? But I saw your couple pictures.She: He is my ex. It is over.Me: Oh this means I have my chances now. I am gona ask you out now. She: Smile and laugh (no awkwardness).I don't know how I mustered up the courage to say what I said. I don't know where it came from. My frind at work who has been there for a long time told me that she smiles all the time so don't take that as a positive sign. I have been there for only 3 months.Now I have a problem. I am a Pakistani Asian. She is a pure white American. My friend told me that she might reject you cause she would prefer white men. Her ex was a cacasian too. But he says it is just his feeling. He is not sure.What do you guys think I should do? Should I ask her out or wait and establish more communication? And if that guy is her ex, why does she have their couple pictures still on facebook?One more thing? If by the slightest chance she agrees to go, where should I go with her? Starbucks?Help me out here friends. The situation is quite complicated. I would appreciate maximum advice.Thanks.
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reader, la petite belle +, writes (7 July 2011):
 Your situation is not complicated at all. Just invite her out! personally I would rather to go to a local coffee shop than the same ol' same ol' Starbucks!. Invite her to a local joint you like and you guys can talk about why you chose that place.
In regards to the "white men" preference, I do not mean to be rude but how old is your friend!!!????? are you taking his comment seriously!?!??!? My ex is Colombian and I have NEVER been into Latin American guys!!! (and I am Latin American!).... besides, you are not going to know if you don't ask her out! You'll always have that doubt!
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (7 July 2011):
 Go for it. Ask her for a coffee, Starbucks will do nicely. You have to ask her out now any ways, cos you said you were! Maybe she is just hanging onto the photos with the ex because she thinks she looks good in them, who knows. And don't start assuming she wouldn't go out with you because of your nationality; one white ex, doesn't mean she wouldn't consider you! Be brave, don't think, jump right in. Have fun.
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reader, sleepingbeauty +, writes (7 July 2011):
Def ask her out! She already seems sweet if she didn't turn you down from your first comment, "I saw you on facebook." (Who knows, that might be creeper status to some people ;) Also, we girls get super flattered when guys ask us out...especially when its someone we hardly know. So, she is bound to say yes by the mystery of it all. I've seen PLENTY of diverse relationships...but then again I'm in Seattle. Anyway, if race really bothers her...LAME! Not worth it. Your personality should be all that matters. Good luck with it all! Be yourself, smile, don't get super clingy, be cutesy flirtsy and have FUN! :)
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