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writes:so i really like this girl and i think she likes me as well. we both went to the same party at the weekend and i kept talking to her and putting my arm around her. we both had a really good time and when i got home i sent a text to our mutual friend to tell her she looked beautiful cause i didn't have her number then. she thought it was really nice. we were also sending messages to each other the night after and i told her she weas beautiful and everything about her was amazing. she told me that liked my text and thought it was nice. she also said she smiled when i called her beautiful. we talk alot on facebook even before the party and we speak everyday sometimes twice a day with the texts we send. we do flirt with each other and she has invited me to her house party a week on sturday. i want to ask her out and i thought that i could take her out shopping for a new dress for her party if she wanted. should i?also what should i do when i meet her? hug her? kiss on cheek? and when were walking around should i hold her hand?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2011): I think you should take it slow like blonde30 said. You can even ask her for lunch may be ice cream. Try to know about her. Her likes dislikes. :) She will appreciate your effort. Good luck.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (1 June 2011):
 Yes ask her out, but definitely DO NOT take her shopping! That is fine if you have been boyfriend and girlfriend for a few weeks or months, but if on your first date you take her shopping to buy a new dress, you will appear one or maybe both of these things:
1. Disapproving of the clothes you have seen her in and want to stamp your influence on her clothes already, by telling her what to wear.
2. Trying to buy her affections and acting like you have loads of money to try and impress her.
Neither of those are good, so please do not take her shopping!
Going for a meal or going to the cinema, or going out for a romantic walk or picnic, taking her to see a local attraction...etc these are all far better ideas for a date rather than clothes shopping! I know you are trying to be nice and most girls would love it of a man offered to take them shopping, but only a man that you know well and have been in a relationship for a while! Plus chances are, if it is her party, she will already have a dress so you will look a bit daft asking her to go shopping for a dress.
Here in the UK we are supposed to be having some good weather this weekend, so why not suggest you go and do something outdoors - a picnic or a walk in the countryside is a lovely date. Or a meal, or the cinema....you cant go wrong with either of those. Getting to know her better before her party next week is a good idea, so go ahead and ask her out.
As for what you should do when you see her again - I would give her a hug, it shows you want to be close to her without being over-affectionate. When you are walking around, start off by not holding hands as this might be a bit much. But if the date is going well and you are getting signs from her that she is interested then go ahead and hold her hand. But dont do it right at the start - you need to see how the date is going first before you do this.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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