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writes:My girlfriend has a problem with apologies. She hates to be wrong, so whenever she is, she quick changes the subject. I have no problem with leaving solved problems in the past, in fact, I prefer it that way. Its just that sometimes it hurts when she wrongs me, and is too prideful to apologize. I am sure to tell her when something she did or said upset me. I tell her this with respect... I am not at all mean or anything about it, so I know its not because of me. She doesnt do it very often, which is why I stay with her... I really want to be able to work around this. Reply to this Question
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (24 April 2007):
 This is just part of her personality, I'm afraid. We're all proud to some degree but when it's hurting those around us, we really need to do something about it. Youre' not that old, so I'm assuming she isn't either and this is an immature trait. Maybe she'll mellow out with time and change a bit. I know I used to be just like her but I grew up and realised how silly I was being.
I know you want to work this out and I think she need patience. Maybe she will be like this forever, who knows? Maybe talk to her and tell her how it hurts you and help her get round it and make it as easy as possible for her to apologise when she needs to do. This is all you can do really and just hope she grows out of it.
If she doesn't change and this hurts you too much the you have to move on sometime. She's not the one for you if she's not prepared to even try and change something so minor in her personality to make you happy. This is not a good trait to have and she needs to sort it before it ruins more aspects of her life.
Good luck.
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