A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:There's this girl who I used to really like and we both liked each other last summer, but I was seeing someone and there was other complications that happened and because of it, I wouldn't say we left things with us on the best terms. I tried to sort it out and make the situation right, but I felt they were too upset that I was with someone else and not them. Point is, we have spoken since then and it's alright with us now. But I found out that she's leaving to go travelling for a year this summer and a month before she gets back I'll would have moved to another country permanently, so I wont see her again. I think about how she was one the nicest girls I've met and I felt so comfortable around her and we got along like we'd known each other all our lives. Which is a rare thing I've experienced with a girl, she'd just be nice to have as a friend if I do come back here again.So my question is, do you think I should ask her if she wants to meet up and go for a drink just to say bye? I know I haven't seen or spoken to her in over half a year, but I think i'd regret not seeing her one last time before we both leave..My friends said that I should just leave it and nothing will be gained from it since we didn't leave it on good terms. As well as, there's no point because it's been too long of a gap she might not care about seeing me anymore, or even wonder why I'd want to see her before she leaves.Thing is, i'm not trying to gain anything, I just don't like knowing i'll probably never see her again. And if she says no, then at least I tried and it's better that than not making any effort. But do you think my friends are right that I should leave it and not bother contacting her since it's been too long and we didn't end things well? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2013): I is up to u but if I was up to me I would say ask her to meet up with u
A
female
reader, Queen_mermaid  +, writes (2 June 2013):
In some way, Your friends are right. I know Its quite discouraging from my part but i would advise you that do not keep great expectation. First of all, You guys did not left on a good note as you mentionned. That's the thing That might ruined up things a bit. Also,its been one and a half year. I guess things must have changed much, like she must have got other sort of commitment.However, I don't think its bad to make a try. Try asking her out as a friend. Unlike your friends said, its not really bothering. You ask her for it. She either says yes or no. If you see that in her reply she seems to be quite bothered by it, then you leave everything here itself and it will be better to not contact her again. Else, You know the rest.Give a try and good luck :)Yours,Queen Mermaid!
...............................
|
