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Should I accept the Bible as the final authority on sex before marriage?

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Question - (24 May 2018) 10 Answers - (Newest, 10 June 2018)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I am in the path towards spirituality and I have been reading the Bible and would like to be baptized one day

I am not a born again Christian but I realize in the difficult times life has failed me and I need salvation - I need prayer and I need conform in my life.

This is not a relationship question but a faith question; I realize the Bible says we should wait to have sex until marriage - I have already sinned - I don’t agree with this or the proverbs about homosexuality

I guess I believe in waiting for the right person (whoever u love and however u love ) as long as you don’t abuse anyone

Has anyone been towards a path to spirituality and should I read the Bible word for word? Does this make me a bad Christian if I dont believe the words all of them ?

I don’t want to wait till marriage again but I believe I am a godly woman- Is there liniency in the Bible?

I also don’t believe home sexuality is wrong - u can’t help who u love as long as ur intentions are pure

Anyone have been on this path?

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A male reader, sissygurl4fun United States +, writes (10 June 2018):

sissygurl4fun agony auntthe Carpenter wouldn't be a good Christian. he would have nothing to do with the BS the Roman Catholics used to terrify all of Europe and south America for 1500 years murdering 58 million and fostering the most evil set of human values in the History of mankind. Jesus was a man. not a righteous bastard product of GOD raping a twelve year old without her father's permission. Dad would have led the stoning. if you want power from the bible which does not belong to Christianity nor does the life of the man called love you have to blow up every interpretation you've ever heard and get your own. logical jesus is WAY more powerful than hocus pocus boy and the God of the Old testament is Female. she threw men from heaven for trying to control everything not Lucifer and snakes don't talk but men named Adam do and he's the only other talking animal until GOD shows up. GOD on Earth whom Adam runs to, dimes out his wife, and blames GOD with, "that woman you sent me". well in the middle East mothers arrange marriages...Adam is talking to his mom who knows they judged someone/ feared them. because they judged it came back in their minds and they became aware of their nakedness.

Seven times on page one GOD tells us men defined the day backward...and the evening and the morning were the first day, second day, etc. stay as far from religion as you can it worships men and in western Christianity's case it worships the World's most evil tyrant in 332 AD, Constantine the Roman Emperor who murdered his wife and son and whose bible prevails.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2018):

By the way Solomon wrote the proverbs and he doesn't talk of homosexuality. He talks of Gods wisdom. (She is wise).

he had 100's of wives and many concubines apparently.

I smile!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2018):

Love? It's the question these days!

Do I think homosexuality is wrong or that I should Love God and wait for my man I think is kinda your question, but you ramble on about same sex stuff. You sound a bit mixed up....

I'm a woman. I'm not going to wait for my woman, because I am a woman. I also have man in my place as a Wo-man who is called a woman. God is my husbandry owner and my God is Love and truth... so - ho I don't need a man. Especially not a man who needs another man or a woman who needs another woman.

That's not Love.

Homosexuals you say?

I prefer LOVE.

(Look deeper people)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2018):

Someone once told me that their opinion of what God wanted us to do was that God wanted us to have as much fun on earth as we possibly could without hurting anyone else.

I thought that was a wonderful interpretation and realised that it would cut out all war and suffering and increase happiness and thankfulness.

Plus people might remember that everyone on earth needs food, water, clothes and shelter.

And love and connection to others.

As people say Jesus liked a party and his first miracle was to big up the wine!

If you feel you need extra spiritual guidance there are many good TV channels that focus on the scriptures.

Also all over the net.

So try to enjoy your journey.

As the bible was written for kings who needed to control the masses (king james version in C.16 th in U.K.) and wanted people to accept their divine right to rule I would learn to draw nuggets of wisdom and truth from it.

Logically the Adam and Eve story is a cute woman blaming story but the time line doesnt work because there were people on earth over 40 million years ago and the bible has the earth and galaxies created in a week, so therefore a Godly week would last about 5 and half million years.

I think the bible is about drawing people together but dont depend on my interpretation as each persons religion and spiritual journey is their own.

And different religions view different events through different cultural interpretations.

So try to develop your own perspective and be sure not to be a blind follower but a thinking sentient being.

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A male reader, DarrellG United Kingdom +, writes (25 May 2018):

DarrellG agony auntWisOwlE is essentially correct. Pope Francis like all Popes is a heretic who amoung other things, in direct contravention of God's Law, sits on and hoards a vast amount of worldly wealth while prating about the plight of the poor etc and telling sovereign governments what they should be doing without practising what he preaches.

Youcannot is right about the way the clergy behave in general but that speaks more to the moral decay and rot in the Church.

Not judging has nothing to do with being nice and everything to do with the presumption judging implies that you are putting yourself in God's place. We are still called upon to bear witness too and to ourselves adhere to the Law as laid down in Scriptures as WiseOwlE says. Yes no one is perfect and we will fall short and it is in those times that God's mercy does come into play. However, that does not mean we are not meant too simple accept ourselves as is, we are called upon to aspire to try and be like Christ and Christ abolished none of the law, rather he came to fulfil it. If you study the matter carefully, Christ tightened the Law to include thought crime. Ie, you were guilty of adultery for even thinking about another woman whereas under the Law Of Moses you actually had to have sex with someone to be guilty of adultery. (see Matthew 5:17 and Matthew 5:27-28)

What you are feeling is the stirrings of the Holy Spirit within you and that is clashing with your old self. Follow that stirring and not the ways and fancies of the world and that will lead you on the road God wants you to be.

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom +, writes (25 May 2018):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntPut simply, only extremists believe every word in the Bible. There are several bits about shellfish, clothing and treatment of women that are outdated and/or cruel.

Faith itself is more important than the Bible. The Bible was written by men with opinions. God Himself did not write the Bible.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2018):

Following the Bible means believing it and obeying the Commandments. In most all religions, apart from the off-the-wall New Age religions that worship anything; there are doctrines and rules. True-believers follow the instructions; but it is understood that the flesh contradicts the spirit.

The Bible teaches that God forgives those who sincerely repent. Then God changes the mind and behavior through His Holy Spirit. It gets complicated.

The problem is, when you get through picking and choosing what you don't like, because you don't agree; there might not be much left. So then ask yourself, what's the point?

God is an all-knowing, omnipotent, and immortal being. He doesn't make mistakes. So, if you want to be a part of His flock, you have to do as He instructs. He doesn't allow for contradiction or being questioned.

Like when you go into a courtroom with a judge; you shut-up and listen when the judge speaks. Kings and dictators rule without being questioned. If a law is passed through our body of government, everyone must follow. You don't get to rewrite it to suit your own convenience.

The judge hands-down the rules of law, enforces legal doctrine according to the written law, and passes down a decree or punishment. God does that in the spiritual world.

You follow the laws of man; even when they're not fair or easy to follow.

God knows we'll never be perfect. So you find spiritual leaders who explain the scriptures, and once you understand them fully; you see the teaching through a spiritual-eye; rather than through the flesh. It's being a bit disrespectful and above God to decide when He's right or wrong. So you have to make sure whether you're fully committed; or just want to go through the motions of being religious.

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom +, writes (24 May 2018):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntYou will find that, these days, even the clergy interpret the Bible in a "looser" way than previously.

As someone who was brought up a Roman Catholic, complete with threats of eternal damnation if I sinned and didn't repent, I am very cynical about any religion which appears to be based on control of the masses. The final nail in the coffin for me was when I realised a friend's mother spent about 50 years alone because her priest told her that, just because her husband had abandoned her when my friend (her daughter) was weeks old, did not mean she was allowed to divorce him or get involved with anyone else. The church does not recognise divorce, hence, despite many opportunities, she spent the rest of her life staunchly alone, as she believed she would burn in hell if she had a relationship outside of her "marriage" (she never saw her husband again, although she knew where he was). How can that be the will of a loving God? Another "sticking point" for me was that the souls of babies who had not been baptised could not go to heaven. What the heck?

You can lead a good and satisfying life without being religious. Some of the most generous and "good" people I know have no religious beliefs whatsoever, or are "free and easy" regarding which religion they follow.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (24 May 2018):

Honeypie agony auntThere are a lot of things in the bible that perhaps doesn't make sense in this day and age, and many things that DOES make sense.

I don't think that in order to find enlightenment or rediscover faith you have to AGREE with 100% of the bible.

One of the big things about Christianity is the words of love others and don't judge. Be good and do good. (to put it in a very SHORT form).

You can't UNDO your past. Do you think beating yourself up will help you in your faith? In your path? Personally, I don't think so.

I'm not saying to just pick and choose what you like from the Bible but to let it guide you to be the person YOU want to be. That goes for any religion or faith, to be honest.

I think to explore this more you could look for a church where the pastor/priest/congregation are of a similar mind.

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A female reader, janniepeg Canada +, writes (24 May 2018):

janniepeg agony auntPope Francis said to a homosexual man that God created him the way he is and He loves him. I imagine if you were to go to a priest to ask about sex before marriage, he would say that abstaining before marriage is a guideline to help people determine if you really love one another to make it long term. If you had sex beforehand you are not going to hell for it.

We don't live in the ancient times anymore where God punishes people by plague, famine, diseases and murder just because people didn't believe in him, or believed in other gods. So of course you should not take the Bible literally.

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