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writes:So here's a question for everyone. When you're on a date with your girlfriend, does the guy have to pay for everything? I mean sure, it's nice if he did, but is there a rule that says that guy's have to pay everytime? Like when I go out with my girlfriend, everytime we eat, I end up paying. If we paid half and half for like maybe 2 or 3 dates then she'll start giving me the guilt trip. Saying things like "Well my mom and my friends ask me does your boyfriend pay for everything?" For me, when I hear something like that, I'm thinking did I do something wrong? Did I like mess up? Am I not being a reasonable boyfriend now because I made her pay? So I mean is there a fine line or like a rule that says guys have to pay for everything on a date?Let me Know Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (21 November 2010):
 No it't the New Age.
Often on a date, I always bring cash with me and offer to pay..the old go for your purse routine. If he pays then I leave a tip. If we go to a movie, I buy refreshments. Just to be considerate and contribute a little something. It's just polite.
Now, if you're girlfriend has money then there's no reason why she can't contribute a little something to the date. I don't think paying half is bad either, you're supposed to be equal in a relationship.
If $ is an issue then don't go out on dates all the time, there's nothing wrong staying in a couple of nights.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (21 November 2010):
 As long as you pay at least half, it doesn't really matter. Though paying for everything on a FIRST date can really make a good impression on some girls in my experience... just don't become a cash-cow.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 November 2010):
 Like you say,it's nice if he does, but it's not an iron clad rule.
I guess it depends. If you are a surgeon and she is a student, you pay. But if you are broke and she is not, you can go Dutch and in fact she should offer to treat you sometime.
In other words, if you can comfortably afford to be generous and chivalrous , why not.
I can buy myself all the pizzas I want, it's not that I need or want to " take advantage ", but frankly I'd find dispiriting eating out with a man who'd keep a sharp eye on the bill and every time would insist that each one pays exactly for what he/she has eaten ,no more and no less.
WTF, shell out a few bucks for my meal every now and then, it's a gesture of hommage and appreciation like buying me flowers .
Of course, though, assuming that you can afford it, and that I don't take adavantage. Meaning, that some times I
offer both tickets for movies or shows. Or I pay for drinks before or after the meal, stuff like that.
In other words, that I don't take your attentions for granted.
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