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writes:My boyfriend has told me that he likes going down on a woman. And in the past has gone on all women he has been with even one noght stands! This disgusts me. I don't really like a being gone down on and any way what my boyfriend has told me turns me off the idea more.Question is what do people out there think about going down on a female? Is it something that is kept for relationships or is it a regular part of foreplay?
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reader, Beccccccy +, writes (22 March 2010):
 Not sure that there is an absolute answer , I can only answer from a personal point of view .
I love being licked ..I even love it when its a guy who isnt that good at it , if I could get just a little more flexible Id lick myself!
A man cock has never gone in my pussy unless he has given me oral pleassure first , these are my rules and Its simple as that . The odd two or three , who have not quite managed to get the message ..had bursting ball sacks the next morning , for they certainly had NOT been inside me .
Just my feelings about the issue .
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reader, veronika +, writes (16 March 2010):
 There aren't any specific rules for one night stands.
I personally feel you shouldn't hold this against your boyfriend. It seems largely unnecessary. The past is the past. And you said you don't even like him going down on you... so I don't see why this is such an issue at present.
I see kissing as being very intimate, but it would be unnecessary for me to get annoyed at how many people he's kissed before he went out with me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYep
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've had my share of one night stands and i dont see girls that have one night stands as slugs.
I see cunninglingus as a more intimate act.
I see one night stands as sex.
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (15 March 2010):
That is a really good way of looking at it Miamine :)
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reader, Miamine +, writes (15 March 2010):
 The thing is, if your boyfriend has done this to "one night stands", I'll tell you, you've got a good guy there. He LIKES women, not just sex. He wants to make women happy and he loves and respects them.
Not all men are like this, some actually hate women or think their inferior. A man who treats ALL women nicely, is a bloody diamond as far as I'm concerned. Would you feel better if he just shagged them, "wham, bam, don't care if you hurt, all women are sluts, so just shut up". Would that make him more decent in your eyes. Oral sex is a part of foreplay and it helps to make sure the woman isn't hurt and is aroused enough to enjoy herself. I think your boyfriend is a very kind man. If you can't deal with the honesty he brings, then don't ask/listen to questions about his past.
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (15 March 2010):
I can see what you mean, as oral sex in some ways can "seem" more intimate than penetrative sex. I haven't had many one night stands but I'd go down on a girl if she smelt good and was trimmed or shaved down below, it turns me on sucking and licking and tasting their juices, whether or not she is a girlfriend or some hot looking random.
But I wouldn't tell my current girlfriend that, it is just too much information that can only make her feel crap! And I wouldn't want to do that because she is the best lover I have ever had and I don't even think about the past times. Similarly, I'd NEVER ask her if she sucks one night stand guys off. I just don't wanna know!
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reader, Miamine +, writes (15 March 2010):
It's a regular part of foreplay for people who like sex and men who enjoy and like women very much...
Only one problem though.. oral sex can help transmit the herpes virus. Herpes is non-curable, but not life threatening.
Don't worry, if he had herpes you'd know by now, but both of you be careful in the future with your own sexual health. You can't tell if someone is clean just because they seem nice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI dont have a problem with cunninglingus. It's thought of how many women my partner has done it with and how many one night stands he has done it to. That disgusts me and I dont want him to do it to because he obviously doesnt see it the way i do. In the past I have liked it, but even if my partner tries it turns me off. I believe it is something that is reserved as a special act for a loving partner. Not just randoms.Thanx adamantine. I feel better knowing that there is someone who feels the same.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2010): As with all things to do with sex, I don't think there are any rules, as long as both people are happy with it that is all matters.
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reader, veronika +, writes (15 March 2010):
Why do you have a problem with cunnilingus?
Going down a woman is completely fine, and if someone has a one night stand and wants to do it, then I don't see why it is a problem.
What I see as a problem is that you seem to think going down on a female partner is somehow disgusting, strange or not important - even if it is a one night stand. It may not be important for you, but a lot of women get a lot of pleasure from their partner going down on them.
Women are always expected to go down on their boyfriends or husbands, but when someone mentions going down on a woman there are still people who react like it's some kind of strange thing to do. I find this way of thinking slightly sad.
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reader, adamantine +, writes (15 March 2010):
 I can side with you. I would like to think that most men don't go down on a one night stand, because it's usually a 'wham, bam, thank you ma'am' situation. It disgusts me too, to think about, as going down on a female is more of a loving thing for a man to do (that's how it seems to me, anyhow).
It doesn't NEED to be a regular part of foreplay if a female can get aroused enough and is satisfied without it.
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