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writes:I just started seeing this girl who is kinda shy and on our first date i was her first kiss. At school however, she is strongly against p.d.a.(which i agree) and told me she's uncomfortable being affectionate in public. She says she doesn't like being touched and is uncomfortable. What can i do to ease her in and make her feel comfortable? (I'm her first boyfriend and i don't want to give her a bad experience)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): Assuming she didn't push you away when you kissed her, and knowing she is still around, don't do anything in pubic, only in private, and keep it very low key. She probably just needs time to get used to having a boyfriend.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (8 May 2008):
You can respect her feelings and not do the touchy feely stuff.
If you are her first boyfriend then she is bound to be a bit uncomfortable. If you give her some space and let her get used to having you around then she will probably be up for holding hands and kissing goodbye.
If you leave her alone in public for a few weeks and then start really small, like giving her hand a squeeze when you say goodbye then you can work up from there.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, growing  +, writes (8 May 2008):
 She is shy and that won't be easy for a gal like her to encourage PDA.it makes sense to me .well if you really don't want to leave bad impression on her then start understanding her .at this age,boys are always eager to show lovebond in public but if gal is dating sum1 for the first time,then she is new to all this and it hardly matters if she is shy or not.i am quite outvert but when i was in my first relationship then me too was relucatnt of kissing in public and for that matter even hugging and holding hands,i was that weird but things changed with time.gradually i gave my consent for holding hands,then hugging and then even kissing.but it takes time.so don't pull her into this ,she will take time and then even she will long for your touch in public.
i would request you not to make issue if she takes step back in public instead love her so that she will feel free to express her thoughts to you and this is what makes sum1 free to express in public too.
i hope you agree with me.
take care of your gal!!
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reader, badz +, writes (8 May 2008):
first of all respect her wishes its somthing new for her be patient if she likes you then she will tell when she is ready and if she isnt then u need to think how much do u like her or then find som1 else there ar plenty of fish in the sea...
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