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writes:My roommates and I recently moved into a new apartment. We know others in the complex, including a boyfriend and girlfriend who moved there for cheap rent, they're old friends of my co-workers.Well that girlfriend is now dating one of my roommates and is walking around my space like she owns the place, she spends more time at my apartment than at hers. What's worse is she's a vegetarian, so if I feel like being nice and ordering pizza for the roommies I'm expected to accommodate her retarded eating habits. She acts horrified if others eat meat and gets all put out if we don't accommodate her. I'm not going to buy a third pizza for her, she can pay for her own food.This girl is someone I've known for a while. We were hotel roommates at a convention once where she ran off with this sleazy guy and got herpes as a result.What's worse is this girl is still living with and is in a relationship with the other guy AND she seems to be also dating my boss (who is engaged).She's getting my roommate to spend all his money on her instead of doing things like paying his half of our pet deposit, which I got stuck paying.Last night she came over and told my roommate to buy HER a couch for the living room, which is my personal space. I just about blew a fuse.I don't think she works. She's a freeloading gold-digger whore spreading her diseases all over my social circle.She contributes absolutely nothing to the household but I have no idea how to make her go away. I'm worried about the health and finances of my friends and co-workers from their interactions with this diseased whore. What can I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2010): I'm not sure what you can do but that kind of drama and crap seems like too much even for me. When money is involved I don't like to get that confused with friendship and even though its a shared apartment, I don't appreciate people invading my space that I am paying for.
But what she and your roommate does with their own lives should not be your problem. Do what you want to do with your money.
I don't think these are problems you can fix other than discussing it with the land lord, riding the storm or just plain moving out. I'm sure you've tried already but you should try to discuss this with yur roommates when that girl is not around.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (16 May 2010):
 I think you should try and ignore her. Its like what Marieclaire said, if he's not paying his half then that is HIS fault, not his gf's. She can be a gold digger for all we care, but she's not the one not paying her bills. Get pissed off at the guy instead. And how he spends his money is none of your business btw, if he wants to buy her stuff thats up to him. You're not in charge of him. If he can't pay rent confront him on that, nothing more.
As for the girl, don't bother buying her stuff and maybe stop buying your roomies things as well? Do they buy things for you? If this girlfriend is buying things for you in return you might as well order half of the pizza veggie-style to accomodate her. Being vegetarian doesn't make you weird or stupid. I think you are showing clear hatred towards this girl that has little foundation in good reason.
Ignore her if you dont like her. Thats about all you can, and should, do. If you feel she is causing you some economic disadvantages, talk to her boyfriend about it and see if you can get them covered.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (16 May 2010):
 Damn... that sucks. It ain't easy to cut out a tumor like this girl, its gonna get messy. Are you the only one who has these feelings towards her? Would your friends/room-mates stick up for you if you put your foot down or would they stick up for her? If you do bring up the issue, put aside the fact you think she's a whore, etc. and focus on how she is affecting YOUR personal space. If she's spending more time at your place than hers, then she should be paying rent for a start!You may be too polite for your own good and I don't know if confrontation is really your thing? Personally I say if diplomacy fails that you give her a taste of her own medicine. Cook meat for dinner every damn night and when she complains just say, "well I like meat, this is my place, you don't like it... there's the door". Ah, maybe I've been watching too many movies, but that'd be awesome :DBest of luck hey, this situation sucks big time, but the worst thing to do would be to do nothing.
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