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writes:I have a girl in my class. I like her very much. I used to talk to her daily. We just become friends. Problem is that our classmates used to say that we were in relationship. She is a bit shy and doesnt like this, that someone is saying that we are in relationship. So she stopped talking to me during school time. I felt really hurt. So i decided to talk to her on her way back to home when i found her lonely.We talked some days during our way back to home. We have normal conversations about school and no special talks. But then a new problem took place as sometimes i used to catch her when i found her alone. Her younger brother saw us together some times. He then at home says to her my name and asks 'who is he?' in front of his mother. So now she doesn't talk to me anymore and if i go to her to talk to her she only replies to the point.What should i do now? should I tell her that i like her or please suggest me some options. I wll be very greatfull for your help.
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reader, serenazai  +, writes (9 March 2011):
 It sounds like she is a very self-conscious girl and doesn't want to draw attention to herself. She is obviously worried about what her parents will think if they suspect she is dating someone. She may well like you but be too shy to do anything, or too worried of what friends and/or family will say/think.
If I were in a situation like this I would go for honesty. In my opinion the best thing would be to pluck up the courage to tell her you like her, think about how you are going to say it first. Even if she says she just likes you as a friend at least you will know where you stand :) I hope this helps and sorry if it sounds ridiculous! Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2011): Yes! Absolutely tell her you like her!If you actually like her, telling her is only going to alert her of your feelings and make her really evaluate her feelings for you.The worst case is that she doesn't share the same feelings and things continue as they are with her not talking to youBest case - you may get an awesome relationship out of it, if she's shy even if she does like you she would more than likely never say so.Make the first move ( I as a girl would love it if you did) and good luck!!
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reader, leylaness +, writes (9 March 2011):
 it sounds to me like she doesnt want a relationship, shes obviously having a problem with people saying there is somthing going on between you and her, and she obviously doesnt like the problems she getting from home about it. If you really like this girl you will respect the fact its hard for her and give her space. tel her that you will let her come to you when she feels ready and comfortable to do so. dont go to her, if she isnt talking to you it is becuase she doesnt feel ready to. the more you push her she will get worse and really shy.Your very young, you will find someone else in time so dont get upset if she never wants a relationship with you, she proberbly doesnt even know what she wants her self and is comfused, leave her well alone or she will start to dislike you for it good luck
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