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writes:Ok, Me and my girlfriend have been together almost 6 months. I love her i really do and i understand that females have guy friends and thats cool. She tells me she loves me all the time but i found a letter from one of her friends in prison and he wrote her for vday and she told me that there just friends and stuff but when i read the letter without her knowing there was alot in it about I miss you I love and i always will.... He wanted her to send him a picture of her cuz he missed seeing her face... well anyways she wrote him back and sent him a picture of her and i dunno what she told him but she told me that he just wanted a picture of her, her mom, and brother but when i read in the letter it was just her pic he wanted.... she's told me about their past about how if she was having problems with her b/f and he was havin problems with his g/f than they would hook up but that was it... Things are great with us though she really is amazing... but im just always concerned with women in general because i've been cheated on before and the guy was one of her "good friends" and i dont want it to happen again.... She tells me she wants to have children within the next year and i dont know if i can trust her if she cant tell me everything... I confronted her about the issue and she said i violated her privacy. which yea i kind of did but the note was on her alarm clock and i seen it when i looked at the time.... she was pissed at me all day but she said it doesn't mean anything and she loves me.... but i dont know what to think... any help is welcome because i dunno what to do about it...
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (27 February 2009):
 She should let you read the letters if she has nothing to hide!! Sounds like there is something going on, I wouldn't trust her personally! X
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reader, Luaris +, writes (27 February 2009):
 Wow I just got out of a situation just like that! The girl says she loves you and youre the one but still feels the need to do things behind your back and keep things from you. It sucks man, its like you love her which is the easy part but you've got to fight to trust her, which is a big emotional toll. I think you need to have a serious talk with her that if shes thinking that youre gonna be the father of her children that she needs to be completely honest with you ALL THE TIME! That includes telling you things you might not want to hear like she sent an old flame a picture of her. Which isnt bad in itself but its very wrong to try and cover it up cuz then it makes you suspicious, then you doubt her commitment and so on and so forth. Like I said I just ended a relationship cuz my gf caused us to "take a break" for a week and in that week she asked an ex of hers out and he rejected her and only then did she come back. When we first got hooked back up I asked if during the break she tried gettin with someone else to which she said no over and over again until her friend told me she tried hooking up wth the ex (to which my gf THEN admitted to)...sry to get off topic there...but long stroy short I know how you feel so set your boundary and tell her that crossing it will end the relationship.
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reader, liv1143 +, writes (27 February 2009):
 well im not an expert, but maybe you should just ask her why she is being so open with this male friend. you could try telling her that you dont mind her keeping in contact and being a friend to him, but its a little past the line when he's expressing his feelings like that to YOUR girlfriend and she's sending him a picture of herself. for friends, thats not necessary. and she has a reason to be a little upset because you read her letter, but she should NOT be having this deep of communication with another guy. especially considering their past. i hope this helps. :)
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