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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I was with my girlfriend for almost five years. We lived together for a long time, but we recently decided to call it quits. At the time it seemed like the correct decision, as we both had questions/concerns about where our relationship was going. We are still relatively young, only 23, but I know that we loved each other tremendously. We've both made mistakes in the collapse of our relationship so there is no one to blame here. I don't think we appreciated each other enough and those were some of the concerns that we had. To make a long story short, we've been broken up for almost 5 weeks. In the last 2 weeks, we've spent a lot of time together, and it was really good. We both talked about how our relationship fell apart but I feel as though we made a lot of progress during that two week period. She left for the weekend to visit a friend and started texted me a few times. Then suddenly, the night before she was scheduled to come back, she stopped texting. I knew something had changed. I'm not worried if she was with someone else, because I don't think she did. She then texted and said, "I've decided to stay for a few more days - I think we should have a talk when I get back. We've been acting as though we're together and we're not." I freaked out but have since calmed down a bit, but I know that her friend has been convincing her that she is making a mistake by getting close to me again. I still love her. I don't think I will forget her if she decides to move on. I was thinking of asking her to marry me in a few months but that doesn't seem likely. I'm almost certain that she still loves me but is scared about committing to me. I'm scared that I will never get the chance to be with her again. I know I'm young and a lot of people have told me that I will recover. What if I don't want to? I'm not sure exactly how to try and get her back. I've given her space since she said we needed to talk and haven't heard anything from her. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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reader, jj. +, writes (5 August 2009):
my friend ..what ever dont break up if you dont have to ,,life is good..but its hard to lose the one you love .
treat her as best you can but realize,there might be another,since you left.u may not want to hear that but there may be...if not work on that relationship and dont
give up...but if you give up .....go away from that situation and dont try coming back,its done..you either give it your all or move away.life is to enjoy not to fade and hurt..so do whats best for you..
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