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writes:What does it really mean when someone says there not ready go be with anyone right now, but everytime your together its like youve been together for a long time? If someones feelings are strong enough should it really matter? or do people really mean it when they say they don't want to be with anyone? ive got this girl that has hurt me, hurt me bad but it just always comes back to her my heart won't let go.. nobody has ever made me feel the way she does when im with her, Ive forgiven her for the bad things shes done, were not together so shes free to do whatever but i can't... When i talk to her about it she tells me "The girl your going to be with for the rest of your life is in your life already, you just have to wait for the time to be right to find out who it is" and maybe i am the one for her. she just wants to figure things out.. i feel like such an idiot asking this because i feel i know the answers deep down.. Do people really change? does she mean what she says? should i even be doing this to myself again. Im scared.. and don't know what to do... Please help me i don't have anyone to talk to really.. Reply to this Question
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reader, summeramber  +, writes (5 August 2009):
i understand that i have been in a similar sort of situation when you say that nobody else makes you feel the same way i thought that with my ex but i have now found someone who makes me feel better about myself and also as a couple and the difference is unbelievable to go from my ex to my new bf and the difference as to how we both get treated. there will be someone else who loves you for who you are and not what you are and also there is someone else out there that will treat you like this all the time and not hurt you what is a relationship when one person keeps getting hurt trust me i have been in a similar situation and its not nice you just have to be strong enough to turn round and say no next time (if there is a next time)
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reader, Miket389 +, writes (5 August 2009):
Miket389 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI do know this in my heart, but i can't seem to let go.. its so hard when nobody else makes me feel that way when were together, but at the sametime how horrible i feel at the same time, its so discouraging honestly sometimes i think im just suppossed to be alone lol ..
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (5 August 2009):
 Man, this girl is full of sh*t. She's stringing you along so that she can have someone at her beck and call when she feels like it, and then shuts you down with that punk ass "I don't want to be in a relationship" crap so that she doesn't have to be responsible. Forget all that noise. If she wanted to be with you, she would! If she wanted to love you and be good to you, she would!
You already know the answer to this. Her actions prove that she is not the right girl for you. You can do bad by yourself, you don't need another person to do it for you.
Move on and value yourself enough not to take any sh*t from anyone else.
Good luck.
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reader, summeramber +, writes (5 August 2009):
if she has already hurt you a few times before and sometimes bad then why ar you with her. there will be someone else out there who will treat you better than this to me if she is doing this she does not really want to be with you and is scared of telling you so she is waiting for you to end the relationship do you believe her when she says these kind things and has she said them before and then hurt you if so then no this person is not going to change. i cant tell you what to do but personally if i was in that situation then i would end it because whats to say she wont hurt you again she has done it more than once by the sounds of it and you have took her back she will keep doing this while ever you are taking her back anf forgiving.
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