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writes:To all you girls out there, I have a question/scenario. Here is your chance to give some good advice to a confused man. I had been dating this girl for about 4 months. Everything thing was going FANTASTIC! I played it cool - didn’t rush anything - Just had the most amazing time together. I came over a couple of days ago and she did a complete 180 on me and said it was not working for her any more. That’s fine, we all go through it – Here is my question: She also told me that when she realized that she loved me - she realized that she could not be in a committed relationship. How do you take that? What do you do about it? Should you do anything? She said she was in basic panic mode and felt uncomfortable in any relationship. She had been single for 6 years before she met me. Any advice here is good and appreciated. Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2008): If you really love someone let them free.If they come back to you they are yours.If they don't they were never yours or loved you in the first place.
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (19 November 2008):
 I totally understand where she's coming from.
she likes you, like to hang around you. But if it gets too serious...she'll freak out. Not ready for anything serious because she's afraid to get hurt. or afraid you will hurt her. The best thing to do is just take things super duper slow. Be there for her when she needs you and respect her boundries. She might come around and realize that she never wants to lose you.
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reader, MissUnique  +, writes (19 November 2008):
 I understand her. She loves you, but she's so afraid of committing, this could be caused by a number of reasons. A bad past, bad relationships...and now it's left her scared to commit, or maybe it's just she doesn't want a serious relationship. Whatever the reason, she doesn't feel she's ready to commit to a serious relationship. Tell her how you feel, that you're not going to hurt her, and keep your fingers crossed she'll see sense. Good Luck!!
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reader, Teacake +, writes (18 November 2008):
 Just ask if she's comfortable seeing you once a week. Hared to say what goes on in someone else's mind since this is not an odd or obvious behavior situation.
Don't pressure her if you really like her and also ask if she wants for the both of you to date other people - that you rather not, but you don't want to be strung along either.
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