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writes:I stumbled on this site and read a lot of sensible answers to questions. My boyfriend of two months and I seem to be on and off all the time. We seem to get close physically (we have not gone all the way) and then he wants to meet and tell me that we should cool it. He told me that he and his ex were through...now I have found out she is out of the country on coursework...she is just away...they have not broken up. I am confused and am tempted to just ask him what he wants from me..friendship? relationip? sex? He comes on strong and then backs off. Any thoughts on why.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2007): GET RID, he will cause you nothing but heartache and it is only 2 months down the line. He is a liar and a cheat and one day he will do the same to you. Get out now!!
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reader, deejuliet  +, writes (1 May 2007):
 He seems to be having a push pull thing going on in his head. He likes you, hence the pull. Then he feels guilty because he is cheating on his girlfriend while she is out of the country (and lets face it, he is cheating), hence the push. I think it is time to give the final push and end this romantic interlude.
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reader, penta +, writes (30 April 2007):
 If he cheats WITH you he will someday cheat ON you. You're lucky you found out he was with someone before you moved any closer to him. Leave him. Consider yourself lucky and move on. There's a guy out there for you; don't be tied to this creep when you meet him.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (30 April 2007):
 It's pretty obvious why he's backing off if what you say is right! You need to confront him and ask him outright, is he still with this other woman? Let him know you know she's out of the country at the moment and you don't like being used when he's still with someone else.
He's probably talking to her some nights on the phone and feeling guilty that he's seeing you, hence the reason he's distant with you the next time you meet. You have to decide... do you WANT to be the other woman or are you happy sharing him with someone else? Only then will you know what to do.
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