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writes:Hi. My Girlfriend of almost 6 years has hit me with a bombshell, she says she doesnt feel as though she loves me in that way any more, I love her more than I can explain, she's my world, I have never done anything to push her away and she openly admitted she doesn't think she will ever find someone who loves her like I do. If this is the case why is she doing this? She has everything with me - our own place, and 2 dogs we call it our little family! She said she needs space which I can understand as we have been together since 16 years old. Everyone we both know is as shocked as me, her parents included. Could it be a 'down' in the ups and downs of life? Should I allow her space and time away and hope it helps?Thanks Jack
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, so i did some digging through our internet history and seen she had been looking at 2 particular guys, i questioned her about them both last night, she didnt want to tell me i could see it in her face but she admitted she had recived a couple of emails from guy 1(which she showed me, and they were harmless really). Guy 2 she has met twice and talks to on a social network, she says its someone irrelevant that she can talk to about the situation but i think theres something else there to be honest. Hes a good looking bloke, and although she admits to seeing him twice i think theres still some truth to be uncovered. I am still in shock but still trust she hasnt cheated or stepped over the line so only time will tell now.
Thanks for your advice guys Jack
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reader, crispap  +, writes (20 October 2009):
Ok,same thing happened to me and it was even worse because he was my husband! We were together 11 years and married 3 when out of the blue he tells me he doesn't feel the same anymore and thinks we should break up he doesn't love me as much as I deserve. He knew also how much I loved him and all I would do for him. He had a great life with me, a home which I paid for, good times, and not to brag but he knew that many men found me attractive and they would tell him over and over how lucky he was to have me..What's my point? You can be perfect but none of that makes a difference if your partner doesn't truly love you. Even if you have 100 faults if someone really loves you and is in love with you they will not leave you. They will not be able to live without you for they will miss you too much.
If you 2 had a problem free relationship where everything was good then it could be she met someone else. One doesn't get the courage to break things off so easily without trying to work it out if they haven't already moved on to something new. It didn't even cross my mind that my husband could have had an affair. I totally trusted him as he was not a "ladies man" and acted like he was head over heels for me. However after leaving like that without giving a logical reason, I got suspicious, did some digging, and was shocked to find flirty emails he was exchanging with another woman. Of course he denied that anything happened but that doesn't even matter. It was enough that he must have had "feelings" for someone else and yup that is a reason many get blinded and ruin the best thing that ever happened to them even for a fling. Today he is alone, with no money, no job no friends no goals of any sort. I am married to someone new who adores me and we are starting a family.
Moral of the story? Let her go. If it is meant to be she will come back. Otherwise it is HER loss and not much you can do. Find someone who appreciates you no matter how much it hurts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2009): dude, back off from her. tell her to move out and move on. it is the only chance you have.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 October 2009):
You need to give her space. Before that, you could ask her what it is that she feels is wrong. Maybe she'll open up. And listen to her if she does. Other than that, give her space.
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