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writes:Sooo, last night at my friend's birthday party I met one of the most beautiful girls in the world.We talked about relationships, music, etc and laughed a lot and we hugged like four or five times and at some points she even held my hand and kissed me on the cheek. I think we bonded over the fact that we both write and she said I inspired her to want to start writing again. We exchanged numbers and today she texted me. Which as far as I can remember has never happened. No girl has ever texted me first. So my question is what do I do now? I dont want to move to fast and screw this up, if I have any shot at all. She did tell me that she likes to be aggressive when she likes someone. And also, unrelated but interesting...her friend told me that she doesn't know she's gorgeous so she dates lame guys all the time. Wow. So what do I do now? I'm out of town for 3 weeks visiting family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): Yep, I also think it all sounds positive. And I do think she likes you a lot based on what you have told us. :-)
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (4 January 2011):
 Sounds all good to me. Have fun and keep us posted, we don't get very many upbeat posts around here that's for sure.
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reader, Solidus +, writes (3 January 2011):
Solidus is verified as being by the original poster of the question We've been talking on the phone almost everyday since I've met her. Which is cool because she actually calls me! I told her I'd cook her dinner when I come back and she seemed really excited about it. She's also told me that I'm handsome and the coolest dude she's ever talked to. I'm not an expert or anything, but I think that means I have a shot. Oh and the other day she made a joke about me marrying her. I don't think girls do that if they don't like you, right?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (3 January 2011):
I love a good ending.
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reader, Solidus +, writes (23 December 2010):
Solidus is verified as being by the original poster of the question I called her last night and we talked on the phone for two hours. I made her laugh a lot. I like to think thats a good sign. She also agreed that we should hang out when I get back.
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reader, Solidus +, writes (22 December 2010):
Solidus is verified as being by the original poster of the questionGood advice guys. And to seeingstars her friend's comment wasn't directed towards me as her friend genuinely likes me too. She was just filling me in on her past dating history and pointed out a couple of as she described them "lame guys" trying to pick up her friend at the party.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (22 December 2010):
Tell her you'd like to take her to lunch when you come back from visiting your family. Ignore the friend's comment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2010): Oh gosh, that was rather rude what her friend said!
I can understand you are worried about "messing things up", but I really think you just need to try and relax, be yourself, and let things develop. It sounds like you like her, and it sounds as though she likes you too. But it is still early days. I know it must be hard, but try not to analyse things and make it all a worry. Try and enjoy it. Keep talking to her and texting, and just be you.
As for what her friend said, I honestly think you should put it out of your mind. I have no idea why they said that, but they are not the girl in question. They don't know how she feels or what she wants. Concentrate on the girl you are getting to know, and ignore her friend's comment. This girl likes you, and that's what matters. I hope things work out well.
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (22 December 2010):
Don't fret too much about the text. Text her back as if she was a friend. If she seems up to it, have a simple conversation back and forth over texts. This can allow you to get to know each other even more. If that goes well, try giving her a call instead if you both have free time.
You don't have to rush things, but it seems she's taking a major first step already! If you really want it, just be calm, collected, positive, and charismatic. If she steps forward again, step up with her. Follow her lead. If she continues to give hints, take the reigns.
Its hard to give advice on this sort of thing since we don't know you or this girl, as well as your personalities. This means you'll have to feel a lot of this out. But I'm sure you can do it!
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