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41-50,
*azre
writes:I'll try to make this as short as I can.I had a crush on this girl for several years. I told her how I felt a few times and got shot down each time. Eventually I told her that I give up. That was about 5 years ago.We ended up not talking to each other for about year after that. But when we did, we became friends again. In fact, she even referred to me as her best friend. We talk about everything now: family, relationships, etc. And one night I was talking to her about some things that were bothering me. Then all of a sudden, she started kissing me. One thing led to another and we've been together a few times since then.The problem is that she's engaged to someone. I think she feels something for me and I know that I have feelings for her. What do I do?
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reader, TimmD +, writes (12 July 2010):
 All you can do is talk to her. Tell her you want to be with her (again). If she says no and still stays engaged, then that is your answer right there.
And don't come back to us saying "She said she HAS to marry this man even though she loves me!" because they ALWAYS say that. The truth is, if she loved you like that she would be with you and ONLY you. If she keeps you on the side then there is no future for you two. Sorry.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (12 July 2010):
She's engaged. That's the end of the road for you two. You need to move on. It could be your fiance cheating on you one day, and you'll regret this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010): Think about this. She could be engaged to you and kissing someone else. How would you feel?
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (12 July 2010):
 Ya, she might have feelings for you, but they're nothing like the feelings you have for her. She's sowing her wild oats before she gets married, and will leave you heartbroken. Take it from someone who's been there -- she's gonna go with the guy she's engaged to, and all you're gonna get is memories.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (12 July 2010):
 http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-to-do-when-the-person-youre-attracted.html
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