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reader, dirtball  +, writes (16 August 2010):
 My father was a probation officer for the last 20 years. His case load was made up primarily of sex offenders just like you will end up being if you stay in this relationship. She is a child, the sooner you see her that way, the better it will be for you. Remember, sex offenders have to register for the rest of their lives. It is truely a charge that will never leave with time. I'd definitely avoid this road.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (16 August 2010):
 Jrod, there is a difference between asking people's opinions on your situation and looking for people to support a decision you've already made. Whether it's legal or not, the age gap is big. You already know this or you wouldn't be even on here asking. For every "no" you've gotten on here you don't seem like you want to here it, and for a "yes" you say "finally, someone who understands...". That yes you received is from a 15 year old girl. If you ask for opinions, you have to be open to everyone's because we are not clouded by our feelings... we are looking at things objectively.
And to justmeinthisbigworld, you are just proving all of our points. You may feel like you are mature to yourself, but telling people to piss off is not mature. People are simply just giving their opinions here. There is a reason you legally cannot make decisions like this yet. All of us who are older have been in your position before. We've all been teenagers and madly in love and we didn't want to here anything from anybody. It's not until you are older do you understand just how big of difference there is in social and emotional development between 21 and 15.
Do not take offense to people's opinions on here.
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reader, Jrod +, writes (16 August 2010):
Jrod is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks justmeinthisbigworld i know that...im not in it for the sex...i want somebody who makes me happy...thats all i want and thats what she does and i make her happy...but i appreciate your reply because finally somebody understands
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reader, justmeinthisbigworld +, writes (15 August 2010):
 personally im in this kind of relationship so all of you saying it's wrong can piss off. my boyfriend is 20 and im 15. we love each other and age doesnt matter. we dont have sex. we know we can't because of the law. we're waiting till we're married anyways. but you can have a loving relationship with someone younger than you, to all you people who think she isnt mature enough or whatever, dont underestimate her. do you know her? no. do you know how she was brought up or how her mind works? opbviously not. i say be with her, just whatever you do, DO NOT have sex with her until she's legal. otherwise your relationship is fine. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2010): hey good for you.. you just have to wait 2 yrs instead of three now.
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reader, Jrod +, writes (13 August 2010):
Jrod is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell her mom is cool with it and i said we can hang out be friends but thats it...by the way in the state of missouri 17 is age of concent and 18 is adult so get your facts right....
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reader, Jrod +, writes (13 August 2010):
Jrod is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell her mom is cool with it and i said we can hang out be friends but thats it...by the way in the state of missouri 17 is age of concent and 18 is adult so get your facts right....
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): If her parents don't care.. than you won't get in trouble. I am dating someone much younger than I am, I love him more than anything. Follow your heart. Its her parents that have the deciding factor, if they approve... be happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): Keep your distance. If you wait a few years and revisit the relationship, then you have options. It would not be healthy to do anything but keep your distance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): walk away from her and don't keep any contact.. and how can her mom be cool with it?? that just sounds wrong
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reader, cocoqueen88 +, writes (13 August 2010):
 the bottom line is she's a CHILD and you're a grown ass man. as this point in her life she is still going through puberty and she's very immature. find a mature WOMAN to "click" with. girls that age change and grow every other minute. wait until she grows into a more mature... and legal 18 year old.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): My nephew did 6 years in prison for the exact same thing. In fact the girl had a fake id saying she was 18. But the law didn't care. I suggest you move on.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (13 August 2010):
If you truly "don't do crap the is wrong" then don't do this. I believe you when you say you have feelings for her. And I'm sure she probably seems mature for her age. But the bottom line is, having a relationship with her would be illegal. In the US, she has to be 18. We all know this. You know this. However, because you are infatuated with her you are not thinking logically. You are trying to rationalize a reason to be with her when deep down you know you shouldn't.
Sorry, man. A 15 year old having a 21 year old boyfriend? That just isn't right. Sometimes doing the right thing is making sacrifices. This next decision of yours will be a true test on how good of a guy you really are. Do you do what is right? Or what is selfish?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): She is 15! A school girl. I am 20 and would never go near a girl her age, girls out age are wild enough without more hassle with a school girl!
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reader, Cloverfield  +, writes (13 August 2010):
 Everytime you see her, repeat the following words in your head & Im sure you'll stop yourself doing anything foolish....... 'Megan's Law, Megan's Law, Megan's Law'
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