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writes:Okay. I met this girl while out at a kareoke bar. We have talked and we seem to really hit it off. She has my number and we text every so often now. She has said I'm cute and in a text once "I'd do ya, If you dont mind my sayin...lol" She has said she is open sexually so i dont know what to take from that. My main problem is that she once said she has a "sort of" boyfriend that just buys her stuff and sleeps with her and never comes out with her. So it would be nice if i were to hang on the 2 karoeke nights in town. I think she is cute and funny and awsome but i dont know what she wants with me. It seems she likes that I am willing to do stuff and i feel a connection but my ability to see the signs are a bit lacking to say the least. I am not the best around women still and can be awkward I admit. I want to get a deeper relationship then a friend on some nights but I dont know what to do.
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reader, Learner.uk  +, writes (12 January 2011):
 Hi,
Not being funny but how do you think the other boyfriend would feel? Do you know him? Put your self in his shoe's.
Yes you may like this girl and she may like you but do you want to be held responsable by the boyfriend for ending their relationship or being cheated on?
Personaly yes you can be friends but that's it at the moment, I would not take it any further apart from talking and having a laugh with each other and dont have any sex with her etc untill she breaks up with him. This will give you time to get to know her instead of rushing in and if she wants a relationship just think to your self will she do this back to you in the future and do you want it going through your head? If its just fun that you want then fine but again dont do it unless she has broken up with him as you will be blamed...Also dont jump straight in after they have just split up, go out else where, this will let her boyfriend get over the breaking up and will help you to make sure your not a rebound!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2011): If you are looking for a relationship, this girl doesn't seem to be the best choice.
"I'd do ya, If you dont mind my sayin...lol" isn't somebody who wants a relationship. It sounds like she fancies you and just wants a bit of fun.
Her saying she is "open" sexually is probably another way of saying she's a bit promiscuous.
If you're looking for something more serious then bars and night clubs aren't the way to go. Meeting women at more neutral places is a better idea.
What are your interests? Do you have any hobbies? If not, then try something new, like joining a club or getting a new hobby. Meeting women who share the same interests will be a lot more beneficial.
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