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writes:right here goes... I have a wee boy called callum who is two and i dont get to see him at all. the story is that i used to go out with a girl called ali she was 16 and i was 21 she fell pregnant and our relationship fell apart soon after we found out. i have seen my son two times after he was born, i was told too keep away and that in her eyes i didnt exist and we have not talked since, i have tried to talk and get in contact with her but i never get a reply. how do i get acess to c my boy? pls help ta Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010): First get a lawyer. File for custody, you won't get it but you will probably get visitation rights. Be prepared to pay child support.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010): I believe a birth certificate can be changed if you make an appeal and get DNA proof etc - it is not your fault if the mother did not allow you to sign up for your rights. I mean, you can change the gender on your birth ceritifcate (as an adult ofcourse) and a child's surname should you change your mind about that thus would assume filling in the blank where father should be is no problem. Google it and ask citizen advice.
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reader, straight to the truth +, writes (7 July 2010):
go to citizens advice, he is your son and you have every right to see him regardless of wether or not you are on the certificate. they will probably want to do a DNA test to confirm you are the childs parent because you are not on the birth certificate and I dont believe a birth certificate can ever be changed so unfortunately you will never be on there.
This sound like something which will need to go through the courts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010): if you are not on the birth certificate and have not been paying child support then i would assume you have very little rights - if you want to see your child and the mother is putting up resistance then i would suggest seeking out how to get your name on birth certificate if not already (as you then get automatic partental rights in England) and establish child support. Then the courts have no choice but to make sure you are included in your child's life. If you want to see your child then you do have to pay for your child and take legal responcibility for your child - so be wary of that in case that is not what you want. Once you have those things sorted, getting visitation rights should be no problem-ish in the courts eyes but i would think about how you are going to explain why you have been absent from the child's life for two years and why you have not sought visitation previously as you may be asked that - i know you can blame the mother for not letting you see callum but by not acting quicker you are also to blame for the situation. Sorry mate.As adviced by the poster below - talk to citizen advice.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (7 July 2010):
Go to this site.
http://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/
and find out where your nearest office is. They offer totally FREE advice on pretty much all subjects, and will certainly be able to assist you with this. I'm pretty sure your ex is breaking the law. She can't just ban you from seeing your son. So listen to what Citizen's Advice have to say. Either that, or get a solicitor specializing in family law (something which you'll have to do anyway).
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reader, dominicjon  +, writes (7 July 2010):
well as a very last option you could try going to court to gain visitation rights. but i don't know if your willing to do that
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