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writes:My gf split with me 4 months ago because she said we don't talk to each other. But we never really stopped seeing each other. We still have nights out together, she stays at my house, we still have sex. Yet when I ask her to be my girlfriend again she says she cant.The other day we talked, and we both agreed we needed time appart from each other. We should have done this at the split but we didnt. She agreed that we now need time apart but doesnt want to do it yet because it would be too upsetting for her and be like splitting up all over again.She wont have me back and she doesnt want time appart just yet, so what am I supposed to do.I need to know if we are together or not and at the moment we are in limbo. Reply to this Question
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (6 March 2009):
 Well clearly the two of you cant communicate very well if you are in this situation.
Basically she is using you. She doesnt want to let you go but at the same time she doesnt want the hassle of being in a proper relationship. Stand up to her - tell her it is all or nothing. Dont let her walk all over you anymore, you are better than that.
If she still says she doesnt want to be with you then you just have to accept it and move on. But if it has been four months since you split up and you are still in this siutation then it doesnt look like it is going anywhere.
I would just stop seeing her all together, cut off contact with her and move on with your life. This girl is only going to hold you back and keep on playing with your emotions.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (6 March 2009):
 Kick her out, change the locks and your phone number, this girl has bunny boiler written all over her! If she wants to see you and have sex with you it's on your terms now.
No relationship no contact, STOP being weak and move on!
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