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writes: Hello, I have been dating my gf for close to 2yrs. The first six months we had great sex. However we stopped for a while since her mom started staying home and we had no place to have sex. We love each other very much and we often talk about everything including sex. I always bring it up and ask her if she wants to go to a hotel to have sex. She keeps telling me no and she now gets mad becuz i ask her 1-2 times a week. I ask her if she ever wants to and she replies she dosnt need to, its one of the last things on her mind. Now I do love her and I will stay with her but I also would like to be able to have sex with her. I dont expect 3 times a week but at least 1-2 times a month. We havent had sex in 11 months.... but we have felt each other up a bit so i know shes comfortable with me. She claims a hotel would make her feel "dirty". Plz help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2009): Im the person which wrote the question.... Ive asked her many many times in the last month and she keeps giving the same answer, "if we had an apartment i would, but we dont. I dont want to go to a hotel". I mean I love her so should i feel bad about asking her? I mean she told me that if sex is all u want to go find some slut to date. It isn't but like Gina said 11 months is very long. Am i a bad guy for asking this or if i leave her?
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reader, Digiman  +, writes (30 August 2009):
 I agree with Gina that "you both need to talk more in greater depth about this issue" because it sounds like she's just not that interested in sex(which, by the way, doesn't mean she's not interested in you), different people have different sex drives, so she may just not enjoy or need it that much. If she's not willing to talk with you about it, then you will need to decide whether you can be happy with her without a lot of sex...
Good luck!
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reader, L*  +, writes (30 August 2009):
i think you should talk to her about this. don't mention having sex in a hotel but tell her that you're attracted to her and love her and want to have sex with her...I think she must have other reasons for not having sex with you. Saying that having sex in a hotel is dirty is a lame excuse.
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