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*ranscowboy
writes:I really dont know where to start. About 2 years ago. I met the love of my life online, i told her i was man. We talked almost everyday, and emailed each other everyday. I never knew what was love was till she came into my life. A year and a half ago, i came out to her and told her i the truth, that im transgender. She was taken back but we still continued to talk as friends. The problem is im still very much in love with her.I know her myspace and i send her an email once every like 6 months just to say hi, and to see how she is doing. She knows its me and reads the emails but never replies to them. I dont know if should move on, or what i should do. My friends tell me that since she reads them, she must still have some kind of feelings for me and that she is scared. I just don't know what to do anymore. I need help
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2008): Hi Hunny,
I dont believe she judged you sweetheart I believe she was looking for a male who could understand her, And you could. Your coming out came a little late love she probably felt alot for you, And is now quite confussed everyone is different hunny and it may be a little much for her to take in I hope things improve for you TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008): you should have told her in the first place.
im sure she will accept you eventually, mabe she feels a bit homosexual going out with you becuase at the end of the day you are not really the real man she was looking for.
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reader, xxbaybeegal  +, writes (12 January 2008):
 yh you should move on, the news was quite unexpected for her. i mean who wouldnt react that way. i think that the person who you will go out with will be the person that doesnt mind you being a transexual and if you have trouble with that why not try a site for transsexuals that way you heart wont be broken...PS try this site
http://www.gumtree.com/dating/transexualat
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (12 January 2008):
 She was looking for a real man and you did not fit into her picture. Partly , she felt was cheated too and she does not want to have anything to do with you .
You need to move on...
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): you should move on because there is no point in waiting for her if she wont talk to you. your friends are right about her reading the messages. she still has feelings for you but there is a great chance that she would be imbarassesd about being with you. if you feel you need to hold on to her then do so but you should probably let her go
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reader, theoneyoucancounton... +, writes (11 January 2008):
 don't worry im sure shes not ignoring you.and if she is, did u ever think that there may be another reason. Relationships can be hard enough to work alone without added surprises on the way... but if it is the true reason that she isn't talking to you because you are transgender then i think you either have to make sure she understands what it is and that you are still you whether you are of a different culture, gender, race, have 3 heads or 5 toes. Its whats inside that counts. if she cant see this then maybe she isn't the girl you think you want to be with. There is someone out there for everyone the hardest part is finding them so don't give up and you'll be just fine :)best of luck ask phoebe
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reader, Transcowboy +, writes (11 January 2008):
Transcowboy is verified as being by the original poster of the question i forgot to include that i am Female to Male, she though i was 100 percent Male.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): no im so sorry but she ahs judged you for being transgender and the fact that he reads the emails does not mean she cares fir you, shes probably just curious what you have to say
try to get over her, it shouldnt be too hard as you never actually met her!
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