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writes:I have been with my partner for over three years now, latley she has been very quiet and not her self, for example one day shes fine, the next shes really quiet. about 3 weeks ago we had a silly argument cuz she wudent tell me whats wrong, and she said she dusent know if she still wants to be with me. I spoke to her mum and dad and they said she has not been her self at home latley at all, she has just been diagnosed with ceoliac disease, we have been on a ''break'' for 2 weeks now and she ant make up her mind if she wants to be with me or not. i have a key to her house and once a each week i have elft either a note saying missing u or sum flowers or a teddy, in her room she has pictures of me and her together on the wall still and she knows im using her key, so im very confussed. We spoke last week and she said i dnt think i can handle a relationship with everything going on at home at the monment, her dad has cancer and she wants to be there for her mum. this weekend it will be a month this has all gone on for, i lover her and i dont know what to do,,,please help...
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reader, Mzbabybat  +, writes (13 August 2008):
 hun, she knows you use her key and she doesnt have a problem with it? right. well let her parents know that you plan to wait for her in her room one day, and when she walks in, let her see you. wait for her to get her grip. and walk over and hold her. tell her your there for her. boyfriend or not, you'll be her diary. let her know that she isnt pressured to be "yours truly" shes probly pressured with her family to be around and be there "little girl" the nice surprise may show her just how much you are there for her. or she may at that point realize what it is that she needs. good luck!
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (13 August 2008):
 that is such a hard hard place to be in and i am very sorry for everyone involved. all i can say is keep doing what you are doing. it is very sweet of you to leave her little love notes.
make it very clear to her that whether she wants to be in a relationship or not, you aren't going anywhere and that you want to be there for her and for her family. you do love her and want to be with her, and she doesn't need to worry about you because you are going to do your best to take care of her!
good luck!
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