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writes: hi everyone. i need some help. Me and my ex have been split up for about 4 months. we have had ups and downs within these 4 months, going from anger and not talking, too going clubbing, cinema and even sleeping together.She has said she wants us to concentrate on being friends because we never had time to adjust to us not being together. i have tried to fight for her again, but she said she needs time. The otherday i told her i couldnt see/talk to her anymore until im over her, which killed me and her, then i went back on it and we have said we need space and time alone to do whatever and that when we can have contact again, that we should just concentrate on being friends. what should i do. should i move on with my life and accept friends is all we can be or do i try again when we do next meet which could be months away. please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2010): i advise u to leave it, i went through the same thing n kept askin, and now we no longer talk, if u wanna keep he as a friend just leave it, who knows fate may bring yas back together ;P
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2010): Look at what you're saying and you'll see that each time you've tried the friends thing, it's fallen apart and gotten messy.
If you have to try and 'concentrate' on being friends then it's simply not going to be possible, look you've tried to win her back it didn't work, you've tried to be her friend and that too didn't work. That means you've only one choice left and that's to completely move on.
Or you can just keep trying the other things over and over, each time getting hurt and resetting the dial on your emotions.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 June 2010):
She's not coming back. And you need to accept that. You need to move on from her, Very rarely can ex's remain friends, because there is so much history. You don't want to be the guy who hangs around his ex and never moves on from her. Time to move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2010): She has told you that she wants to be friends. So yes move on with your life and accept what she says. Hopefully the next time you see her you will ready to be just friends.
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