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writes:My girlfriend has told me that she wants our relationship to be more intimate, what does that mean and what can i do to be more intimate? Reply to this Question
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reader, Amethyst  +, writes (24 January 2007):
 Try being more romantic, and more emotionally close. Treat her right, and listen to her when she has things to say (no matter how uninterested you really are, act it!). All women (whether secretly or otherwise) have a soft spot for romance. Take her to a nice resturaunt sometime, buy her a teddy bear or a rose. Then work up from there. Whisper compliments about how pretty she looks in her ear after simply smiling and watching her talk. Listen and take in the information she gives you, and act on it! Do what you can to keep her happy, and to grow closer. Also, you can ask her what she wants to do sometimes, see what she says and whether you do it then or surprise her with it later, do it sometime if possible.
Hope this helps!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2007): why don't you just ask her? it'd be a lot easier than having strangers guess at what she means.
tell her you thought about what she said, and you wanted to try to do things to make the relationship more 'intimate', but the more you thought about it, the more you realized you weren't even really sure what she meant.
first off, she'll appreciate it that you're trying to understand her and that you're wanting to help the relationship grow. it's nice to ask her what that would mean to her. and feel free to let her know what that might mean to you. (you should think of this beforehand. it could be something like- more time alone together, or- developing a closeness that lets us trust each other more, when we're together and when we're apart, etc.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2007): I agree with Melschatbox. A very good answer. It's my hope that she's not mistaking intimacy for sex. So many adolescents do this. So you really should ask her exactly what she means. Because having sex, is not just what it simply entails. In a relationship, when two people become intimate, that means that they are closer to each other in every way than anyone else. They have a deep bond and it's very loving and very emotional. Intimacy is the most important, the most precious, the most desirable quality that can ever be attained in any relationship. It far transcends just having 'sex'.
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reader, melschatbox +, writes (24 January 2007):
 Intimacy is: a feeling of emotional or spiritual closeness. That means she wants you to talk to her more..connect on issues that bother the two of you.. discuss her wants/desires/dreams.... and your too! She wants you to love her more than just physically. Sex does not equate to intimacy, although it has its advantages. Talk to her..stare into her eyes...give her unsuspecting hugs/kisses... I think all of the above is what your wife is wanting... Good Luck
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