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*clipz24
writes:Me and my ex girlfriend were together for 3 years and have now been separated for a year and a half. During the relationship we lived together and raised our children together. We broke up because of trust issues and during the first year of separation we would keep in touch and hang out from time to time. I constantly found myself angry and sad when I saw her because I know she sees other men but she tells me she loves me and sees is together in the long run so I'd cut it off but every so often shed send a text "ill never love someone like I love you" ect. Then we'd start to see each other until I couldn't take it then I'd cut it off and the cycle would start again. 6 months ago we started to see each other a lot again staying at each others place 4 to 5 nights a week with the kids, she would pick my daughter up for school go out on dates spend a lot of time together. When I let her know I wanted her back she said she's not ready to get back into the relationship and just wanted to be friends but she always crosses the line and we have sex. I told her it hurt me to be this close and know ages other men and just said that we should just be apart until she knows what she wants but she is very forceful about seeing each other and the only way to let her know was to be very blunt and say it hurt too bad to be in this situation so I wanted nothing to do with her if it wasn't as my girlfriend. During this time we went to each other's family gatherings, made love just as passionate as before helped each other out said I love yous and every single thing we did before but she just won't commit. What are her intensions? And why will she do everything a couple would do but not commit?
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reader, eclipz24 +, writes (8 January 2010):
eclipz24 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI cheated on her multiple time and by multiple I mean like all the time. MIT I know with out a doubt I love her I attribute my unfaithfulness to 8 years of incarceration and tryin to catch up on all that lost time. Kind of a macho thing about how many women you fuck ect. Towards the end I realized she was all I needed but the damage was done and I didn't have the patience to slowly build that trust back so I told her to leave but imediately said I lost my temper and I wanted her to stay but she would have none of that. So nobody thinks she want to come back but is just being really cautious? What throws me off is that I asked her to commit to just me while we lived separately and took our time to see how it went and at anytime it wasn't goin as planned we could break it off again but she won't buy still wants to be around me almost all the time. What see your thoughts on this? I'm not squeaky clean at all so what is her goal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2010): You are just her backup/fall back plan. Stop seeing her socially and start seeing other women you like.
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reader, Luckshot  +, writes (8 January 2010):
 By the sound of it, she dont want you to move on and to only be there when her life falls apart to pick up the pieces. The passion she gives you is a teaser to keep you in touch with her. Best thing is to move on and only keep what ever you say to her about the children.
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reader, eclipz24 +, writes (8 January 2010):
eclipz24 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI figure that but its confusing because she is very beautiful and I know for a fact that she has many men who see good looking have good jobs and so forth they take her on vacations and she has sex with them so if she has all this goin on why does she want to be around me? I mean I screwed her bad when we were together so why not just leave me alone and go on to something better?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (8 January 2010):
Because she has you wrapped around a little string, that's why. She doesn't' want you getting close to any other women so you're always at her call. You need to stop her using you like this, or you'll never move on. She's using you so you're just at her call, that's all.
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