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writes:So basically , me and my girlfriend , are on a break, meaning break up w/e, but yah we went out for 2 months and it was good but then she started to realize the feeling she had for her ex were getting in the way , they went out for 3 years and she never had that point in her life to get over him, and she said she really does like me and thinkins im the perfect guy , but i have just came in at the wrong time, so we both decided she needs some time to herself to think, w/o the pressure of are realtionship, basically the guys a real douche , ignores her cusses her out , me on the other hand we never had argued and are relationship is good, i havce decided to give her her space, but she still says things like "you should call me if you get bored" and " ill texzt you in the morning" she said she doesnt want to stop talking to me , but just wants are realtionshi out of the so she can decide what she wants to do , i hve decided to wait for this girl , despite her telling me she doesnt know how long this will take, i really do love this girl , but shes still talking to me while she wants space thats is a good sign right?
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (17 January 2009):
 Your girlfriend or ex as it is for now, is probably confused about her feelings for this ex of hers. Sometimes people tend to go back to someone when it's a comfortable feeling. She probably likes you alot and knows she doesn't want to let go of the good times and good feelings that you brought in the relationship.
You have done right in letting her have her space and the time it takes to figure out what she wants here. In time she will have had a chance to reflect on the past relationship she had with him and also on the good relationship she has had with you. Sometimes that will speak for it's self. However there are times when a person is still drawn to the ex and can't seem to get past the old feelings there.
You want to wait it out and that is a Noble idea. The fact is, waiting may or may not help. That choice is yours though and I would suggest waiting for abit then in time if she can't decide to make the real committment that you long for it may be best for you to move on. Remember that she knows you are a good, respectful, honesty all around good guy. I know that is going to be going thru her mind, it may or may not however bring her back. If it does you must consider this. It's possible that she may do this again. It's not a gaurantee but there is a chance.
Protect your heart and be prepared in case she can't committ completely to you. By leaning back and letting her have all the space she needs, she indeed won't feel so pressurred and that may ease her quest to make a clear cut decision.
PRAY FOR WHAT YOU WANT AND PRAY THAT SHE WILL BE THE PART OF YOUR LIFE THAT GOD SENT HER TO BE. ONLY TIME WILL TRUELY TELL AND ONLY GOD KNOWS WHERE HER HEART REALLY LIES.
KNOCK LIGHTLY UPON THE DOOR OF HER HEART AND IF SHE OPENS THE DOOR WALK IN. STAY FOR AS LONG AS YOU CAN AND AS LONG AS GOD BLESSES YOUR UNION.
Best wishes!
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2009): maybe it is a good sign, and maybe it is that she does not know what she wants. Be prepared that she might not come back. Also understand she likes the nice things you do for her, but she probably also is addicted in some way for many reasons to the bad behavior from the other guy.
I had a similar situation, played it like you and in the end I got crapped all over, she dumped me hard after keeping me around for talking and all the same sort of call me if you're bored and so on.
So I am not saying she will do that, but if I was you I would start getting on with my life, go out with some other people. If she comes around great, you are not in anything committed, just having fun and dating and can get back with her. If she does not come around then great, you have not put your life on hold. I can tell you that one thing a lot of women do not like is a man that seems desperate. If you start dating others she will see you are doing your thing, she will see that you are living your life and she will probably want you back when you move away.
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