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writes:I'm sooo confused! I've known this guy since like May 2008. We hit it off pretty good..talked and text for a long, long time before we even met, just recently. We went out on two dates and it was cool. I started to like him a whole lot but noticed he would call me "Buddy" every now and then. So, I didn't want to start the New Year wondering what if? I just had a conversation with him blah, blah and made it a point to say, "Buddy" It took him awhile to respond to my text, but eventually did. Said something like "you're so lucky that you have a friend like me to teach you more about the sport." This time he replied but clearly said, "FRIEND, BUDDY" What the heck! Now, was it because I just threw it out there and maybe he's like I'll do the same..nice come back?!?And ever since then the texting every other day and calling just stopped..nothing! I'd get a call from him late at night just to chat or a text to say "Hi!" .. After that it went to like a text or two..Now, no more text or calls. :-( I just thought..why the heck is he calling me "Buddy" I need to see his reaction if I do the same.. I feel like a total dork..It just didn't seem normal for a guy who has interest in me to call me "Buddy"
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (21 January 2009):
 You are welcome hon! I hope that now you can at least have some closure. There are no gaurantees in life and IF he should ever decide to look you up again be sure to allow him to step up and make the moves. Be cautious and from now on play Hard to get....Well........BE HARDER TO GET!
Blessings,
Blue_Angel
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for your response..! Now, it all makes sense.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (21 January 2009):
Brace yourself hon. From your post it seems that he liked you and then met you but perhaps you weren't really what he expected. He probably was trying to spare your feelings and he used the term "Buddy" because he was uncomfortable in telling you that he didn't feel a deep connection with you after the meeting.
Being called Buddy or friend is about the same. Buddy is a way of saying in friendly terms,usually when the uncomfortable feeling is present to discourage any further romantic involvement. The term friend could also mean the same. It all depends on the context, situation and how it's said.
Since he has pretty much stopped calling, texting or trying in any other way to contact you, my best opinion is THAT HE REALLY ISN'T THAT INTO YOU! Your feelings for him are far outweighed more than his lack of feelings for you. WITHOUT AN EQUAL BALANCE IN THIS SITUATION THERE IS NO WAY IT WOULD EVER WORK!
You are best to stop worryihg over this one guy. TAKE BACK CONTROL OVER YOUR OWN FEELINGS AND BREAK CONTACT WITH HIM. If he has a change of heart and it's possible, YOU LET HIM do the WALKING THRU THE YELLOW PAGES! Get out and have fun and be your own date for a spell. That's right, GO SOLO! It WiLL give you a new outlook on things and a better perspective on life. Don't waste another minute dwelling on this one guy, there is so much of life you will miss if you do. Not including the many possibilites for a great realtionship that won't keep you at witt's end.
If he got scared off or just couldn't commit,or if you weren't his type gal, whatever his reasoning, he seems to have made a choice. He has backed off! It's ok though because you can say you have done your best and the rest is now up to him!
PUT ON YOUR WALKING SHOES AND TAKE JESUS WITH YOU! FOR WHEN YOU ARE IN THE LOW PART OF YOUR LIFE, HE WILL PICK YOU UP AND CARRY YOU THRU! GOD HAS ANGELS EVERYWHERE ON EARTH, SEEK HIS WILL AND YOU MAY MEET ONE SOON!
Wishing you the best always!
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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